Mother daughter relationships
I am 61 my mother has always been very critical of me but as she is getting older (85) she seems to find me unbearable, she criticizes by withdrawal and total lack of interexst in how I look ,what I say , what I do, she is very grumpy and rude and tries to make me look stupid in company, and tries to draw me and my friends into arguments which spoils any social occasion especially family get togethers. I have tried many ways to get a better relationship with her but the problem seems to be getting worse. It makes me very sad I would like us to have a better relationship with her in the short time we have left. I aqm quite a gentle person with a good social life a loving family and lots of friends I have tried to discuss this with her but she also turns this into an argument. Mum lives a long way from me we visit each other and these times ar very difficult most of the time we cannot converse, she begins each visit with a critism about my weight , or hair ,or looks which wrong foots me from the start. I try to compliment her or joke the comments away but she is not happy until she has upset me then she seems very happy. She then tries to buy me off but I don't let her. Any ideas how to help with this please.