My ex broke up with me about three months ago. When it first happened I went through the whole calling non-stop begging the whole nine. I don't have the urge to call as much anymore but I still think about her constantly. We agreed to be friends I saw her for the first time in weeks this past weekend. It was cool she came over to my place and we talked she mentioned a few guys that wanted to date her surprisingly to me I didn’t get jealous, so I think I have accepted the fact that we are not together, but I still think about her a lot. How do you stop thinking about someone you was so close to? I have a new friend and we spend a lot of time together but I still think about my ex when I with her

She was special in your life and you have an undeniable bond even though you have moved on in separate directions.

Hey Dallasboy,

I'm going through the same thing myself. I'm starting to see someone new, but thinking about my ex. It's bewildering.

I noticed this recurring pattern with each partner. After a break up, it takes months to get over them. I go to parties, probably drink too much and meet lots of new men, but with no intention of anything serious as I'm still coping. Then, after months of healing, when I'm finally comfortable and perfectly content with being single, I meet someone new. We start slow, I start liking them as possibly something more than a fling, but I still find myself thinking of the ex and even get sad because memories are unexpectedly dredged up. But gradually, my memories with the ex (or at least the potency of them) are pushed out by new memories being made with the new boyfriend. Eventually, I don't think of the ex very much. The current relationship grows, plateaus, and then, sours. We fight. We make up. We fight again only to break up. And then I continue the relentless cycle that is breaking up, healing, and embarking on new "relationships"...

How depressing. Lol. No relationships for me anytime soon. Jeeeeesus.

Jiltedgirl,

What a jaded way of looking at things. Time to break the cycle!

Hahahaha. Funny you should say that... :P

I have to say though, each one of those relationships, as heartwrenching as they were at the time, have helped me learn so much about myself (the good and the bad) and what I need in a relationship. So at least that's a positive... X_X

I guess that's a way of looking at it.I learned a lot about myself after this break up