My friends are getting married soon. Recently the bride confided in me that she is having second thoughts. Now I find out that the groom confided in my boyfriend that he definitely does not want to marry her, but doesn't know how to get out of it.

Do I tell her? Or keep my mouth shut? I don't want to create drama but I feel like I would want to know if I was her.

I think the only way around this is convince your girlfriend to talk to her boyfriend about how she is feeling nervous about the whole thing and then maybe he will feel relieved and open up to her that he doesn't want to either. Not good to have their guests at the wedding and then call it off.

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Originally Posted by jjwoodhull

My friends are getting married soon. Recently the bride confided in me that she is having second thoughts. Now I find out that the groom confided in my boyfriend that he definitely does not want to marry her, but doesn't know how to get out of it.

Do I tell her? Or keep my mouth shut? I don't want to create drama but I feel like I would want to know if I was her.

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This is sort of easy. Suggest to your friend that she have a heart to heart talk with her fiancé about whatever second thoughts she's having. She can even suggest that they extend the date, if she feels that would help. Point blank, end of the story. All of the other stuff is irrevelant.

Michelle

Excellent answers above! Just wanted to add that, if they are not able now to have a mature relationship involving open and proactive communication, then they aren't ready to get married anyway.

just tell them thats its expensive to get married and divorce....think well before lashing out hard earned money....

Communication is obviously not happening in their relationship already, so even if they were happy to be getting married, it would eventually crash and burn anyway. Suggest to your friend that she should talk to her partner about it because she should be looking for someone who is right for her, else she will really regret it.

Thanks to everyone for great advice.

They both might be scared of getting marry.You shouldn't repeat what was said because she confined in you and he confined in your boyfriend. Even though she might appreciate it, what's happens when she confronts him and he asks "who told you that and she gives your name? You'll be in the middle, they need to figure it out for themselve and shouldn't jump in the kettle if theym're afraid of getting burn. How old are they by the way? Like said above you can push her to talk to him and that's all.