Girlfriend wants a "break"
Background of my girlfriend, her family, and our relationship:
We started talking in August, and finally became a couple in September. She told me that she would be very busy, with work and school. Her and her dad own a pet store so she works almost everyday after school, and on the weekends. That is also pretty much the only time I get to spend with her, at her work. Which isn't very bad because its usually not too busy so we always talk for a few hours. She gets home and we talk on the phone until she goes to sleep. She is also a VERY independent person who needs her space every once in a while, and I always give it to her. She never had a mother figure either, unfortunate events occurred when she was a baby. So her grandma and her father are her two parents pretty much.
This all happened a week after Valentines. On Valentines day, she was so happy with what I got her, and the feeling was mutual, she told me how much she loves me etc etc. (Shes 18 and I'm 20 by the way.) A few days after Valentines day she started acting sort of "apart" from me. She wouldn't really talk to me or anything, just seemed down. This went on for about 2 weeks. I confronted her about it and she said she didn't want to talk about it right now. Well I get a phone call one weekend, we talk for about 3 hours. She starts it off saying "theres a part of me that really truely loves you, but this other part of me is afraid and confused." But also in this conversation she said she thinks she's too young to know what true love is, I agree completely as am I. She is afraid because she doesn't want to end up like her dad who is an only parent, or her grandma who has been married 3 times. She wants to find that one person and be with them for the rest of her life. I asked her if she wanted to get into more relationships and I didn't get a clear answer, she wasn't sure, as she is confused. We are on a break and not dating or seeing anyone else. Now, she tells her grandma everything, and lucky for me, her grandma tell me everything she tells her. What I have gotten from it so far is this: She is so busy that she hardly has time to think about me or miss me, but when she does think about me she does miss me. She also said I might have treated her too nice, meaning there was no challenge. My fault I guess. Also, she said she still really likes me and cares for me, and if we were to get back together it wouldn't be until she graduates. I know she still cares about me because I recently had surgery (ruptured appendix) and nearly died, she called me crying her eyes out after I had the operation. She wanted to come see me but her and her dad had both been very sick. Also, she has a lot of guy friends, and I tend to worry about that due to past relationships. She said she wants to be able to go have fun with her guy friends and not have me worry all the time. The strange thing is, she told me loves me the night she wanted to take a break, but she also said she isn't sure she knows what true love is. Also, she's a virgin - and wants to wait until she meets the right guy, and maybe that's what she's afraid of? I told her I don't look at her as a sex object, I love her for who she is, if she isn't ready yet then she isn't ready... I guess my question is, from all that I have told you guys, do you think we will get back together? I mean I don't want to put my life on hold and set myself up to be hurt again. But to me, that chance is worth it for her.
She also said she isn't going with anyone to prom, and she didn't want to take me because its my birthday and she didn't want to ruin my birthday by me being with her and we aren't accually "together" makes sense to me. She might not even go to prom... but she isn't looking for any other relationships which is what's really bugging me.
Her dad also told me the past couple months she had been acting different, unsure of herself etc... yet she still shows me how much she cares for me. Im so confused, please help!!
Thank you!!
