I'm off the drink 8 days I've gone threw the dt's but now I'm itching for a drink, I miss the social life, I even miss the bullsh1t of not giving a sh1t, I'm in reality and I hate it, is this a faze that will pass? I'm trying to stay busy but I'm finding it impossible to relax. My kids and partner are driving nuts cause I'm up early wanting to go out not to pub but to do something fun anything but watch t.v, I go to a.a every day, but if this keeps up I know il end up on drink is there any alco's who can give me advice, I'm only new to a.a and haven't asked anyone yet,:o :o

If you are in AA, don't they assign a 'mentor' to you just in case this happens and you need advice ?

[QUOTE=tickle]If you are in AA, don't they assign a 'mentor' to you just in case this happens and you need advice ?[/QUOT, no every time I go different folk bar 2 or 3 still trying to find my feet in aa, find it a weird place but will try anything.

I did a bit of reading about AA since you were on here and you say you only started 8 days ago and you haven't had a drink. Sounds like you are doing all the right things and I urge you to keep up with it. Stay on here with us and talk from time to time and find out about your 'sponsor' at AA next meeting. This is the person who you are able to contact any time when you feel a relapse coming on. Don't forget, you have a family where your priorities lie and from what you say you already know that.

Good luck wayne888 and hope to see you here again soon.

Will this phase pass you ask, YES!

Soon the necessity and urges to "go out" can be replaced by the AA 12 steps.
Willingness is a huge factor here,the willingness to be sober is all we have in the beginning.

Soon,you will need a sponsor in AA and it might seem like a big hurtle but the person you ask is undoubtedly going to change your sober life forever
Acceptance is the key here,accepting another's help.

The 12 steps are made to be worked on 1 step at a time, and work for MILLIONS of recovering alcoholics,one more will always be welcome if they want to get what those people have.

Hang in there, your on the right road to recovery and a new way of life.

KBC

I'm glad that you are working on staying sober good luck and kepp your family close

8 days sober, be proud of yourself, that's one more than you had yesterday.
I right now, have the urge to go drink. I lost my license, closest food store is down the street, right next to the liquor store.. I fight with it everyday. Your lucky you have AA meetings to go to, there are hardly any around where I am.

I always tell myself , oh I can have just a half pint vodka, I'll be cool, but the way I battle with whether I should go by it, almost feels like I am cheating on someone. There's always a different grocery store I guess.

I've lost a lot because of my drinking... I have no real sobriety, but I do the best I can.

If you are going to meetings, you need a sponsor... Usually at meetings they will ask if anyone is willing to be a sponsor. Then you can see who raises their hands, and go up to them privately. It's a hard road, I know I need to get to AA meetings.

If you can't get to one, just try to remember what happened the last time you drank. If you are like me and many others, it should help you keep it together. I'm sure you have heard not always one day at a time, sometimes , it's one minute at a time... And that's tough.

But keep trying... 8 days I envy you.. I'm no way like I use to be but I can't say I have 8 days...

Tomorrow will be 9. Hope to hear from you, good or bad. Here for you, but you do need someone with some real sobriety to guide you...

If you're not liking the AA, try Religion, I've seen a lot of people get and stay sober with religion.

Good luck, talk soon

I hope you are still on the right track, it will pass. I have been clean and sober for over 5 years and the first month is the most difficult. A.A. is a good place, when you feel like having a drink go to a meeting. Get phone numbers from other people in A.A. preferably with some sobriety, when you are having a hard time you can call them most will tell you 24 hours a day, they will even come get you if you are having a really hard time. Find a sponsor even if it is a temporary one. If you falter and relapse do not get discouraged just get up and start again. Always remember sobriety is the most important thing in your life because if you do not have it you will eventually lose everything else. You must be willing to go to any length to stay sober, ANY LENGTH!!

It is tough, I am about 18 years and yes reality sucks sometimes. But then it is always real and always there, only they are just hating or making fun of you while you are drunk.

So it really is one day and at times one minute of hell at a time while you go though the pain, and the longing.

Get back with the AA people, get someone or a couple to call when it gets real bad.
Also start trying to find a real life, and in a few years you can go out and drink a coke and look as see, was I really that stupid.

I understand.
I am a 29y/o alcoholic w/ 3 mo of sobriety- after 2 rehabs, AA, 4 DUI's, 4 trips/stays in jail.
When you have crazy thoughts think about this: Having that "1" drink today may likey lead to 5 tomorrow. Then your'e off and running again.
At what point in your alcoholic career will you NOT be lucky enough to have your kids and partner around to drive you nuts? They'll be gone eventually if you keep drinking.
GET OUT OF YOUR OWN HEAD anyway you can. Alcoholics are self-centered, self-seeking, self-pitying creatures. I try to put someone or something else before my crazy self. SERVICE WORK WORKS WONDERS, I promise.
Don't just show up at AA meetings, open up to it. The people are some of the greatest folks you'll ever meet and they understand. Recovery is worth all struggles you feel now.

First - Congratulations on 8 days. You rock!

Second - Trust your AA group. Choose a sponsor. Work the steps.

Third - Remember: One day at a time.

Believe me, it gets easier. You will eventually learn how to live life and appreciate it without a glass of booze in your hand. I have. I slip. I get back up again. It's a battle. But believe me, the sober moments are worth it.