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I have a frined she's almost due but doesn't want her baby has tried everything to loose her baby I offerred my help.. we came to his decesion her giving me hr child .but I am only 23 years old and not married ye love kids but can't have any I've helped raise a beautiful girl once. Can I legaly adopt this baby from her , me being single and so young??
Yes. This isn't an adoption through an agency, this is an inside adoption, if she chooses you to be the mother, than that's that. Just make sure that you get all the appropriate paperwork filled out and filed.
One of the bad things about a situation like this is that she can change her mind later on. Be aware that when she gives birth she may start to feel like a mother, and want to keep her baby. You should prepare yourself for this. Just in case.
23 is not "young" and single parents can adopt in every state in the US.
It is best to get an attorney and be sure that both the mother and father sign off for the adoption. Also is the baby OK, if she has done a lot of things to make her loose the baby.
You will need a lawyer.
If she decides that you are the person she wants to have custody of her child, generally that's a pretty good indicator for the state--but you will still have to do it through the legal channels.
I suggest contacting a local attorney and getting the legalities from someone who is familiar with your local laws.
Being single shouldn't prevent you from adopting--but I really REALLY suggest that you each sit down with a counselor, separately and then together, and discuss your reasons for choosing this particular adoption.
Hey, I resemble that statement. 23 is too young! I'm 22 and I'm young!
Thank you so much and yes I did bring that up with her "what if" but she told me she's made up her mind
Coming from the birthmother's perspective---you really don't know what you're giving up until a couple things happen:
1. The baby is REAL--it's hard to believe, especially in an unplanned pregnancy, that that's really your BABY in your tummy. It's not really real until the baby is born.
2. Time has passed. You're giving up your child's whole life, not "just a baby".
Really--I very much recommend counseling. I doubt very highly that the child is real to her yet, and even if it is, I sincerely doubt she realizes how permanent adoption is.
Rules have loosened up for single people to adopt. You should have no problem if you don't have a record of child abuse or a criminal recordQuote:
Originally Posted by starez86
Miller11, I think you misread my post. I didn't mean that 23 is TOO young to have a child. I meant that 23 IS young, TOO. Please read the quote in its context, you will see what I mean. And also, this is not factually incorrect. Please do not use the reputation function unless you know how to use it. GEESH!
I am in the same situation. I am 23, I am in a relationship and have been for almost 3 years, and my friend is due to have a little girl in September. She has one child already and wants to sign her parental rights to the one on the way over to me. I spoke to a lawyer and he said that being single and the fact that I live in an apartment(?) I probably would not be qualified to adopt her. Therefore we are looking for other options that would still make me the "parent" or guardian. I am looking into becoming the child's permanent managing conservator or legal guardian, but it is extremely hard to find out HOW to do this. The lawyer I spoke to could not offer me any advice on becoming PMC instead of adopting...Quote:
Originally Posted by starez86
Hope this helps a little... there are other options, you just have to find out how to get it done! I will let you know if I find out more. PLEASE let me know if you find out anything.
I don't think I am able to have kids and this little girl already means the world to me. We have even picked her name and began to get ready for her to come home :)
Also, I live in Texas, so I don't know if the laws are the same where you are.
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