I want to live with my mom because my dad mentally abuses me calls me stupid little girly , when I told him last time that I wanted to live with my mom he was driving me to school he stopped we went home and he yelled at me until I was afraid to say I wanted to live with my mom and then blamed me for making him be late for work for yelling at me, he talks bad about my mom, he said,"your mom's lying i never hit her but ishould have hit her","all lyers should be shot in the head in a line with your mom first saying I'm a lyer I'm an f%$#in lyer,some joke about like breaking her legs, always compares me to her in bad ways he called me a slacker and not responsible because when I changed the trash I forgot to put a new bag in there, he said I'll always be smarter than you and all your friends put together, he always asks if I talk bad about him like 3 times when I come back from my moms, he's threatened to hit me around 6 times like when he's mad he'll say do you want me to hit you, your next answer better not be stupid because I'm getting pissed off he said something like I'll floor you if you text message. I'm scared I get so nervous sometimes that I shake, my heart beats really fast all day, and I feel sick from stress, I get little red spots on my chest, I also have alopecia and when I was little when I got stressed out my hair came out. I want to know if I can move back with my mother and possibly get a restraining rder on my dad for everything that I just told you but if my dad finds out then I dion't know what he'll do so I want him not to find out just to live with my mom

You live with him and you are only a kid so it would be up to you to talk to your mom and tell her you are scared for your safety. You can't get a restraining order. Your mother would have to get one for you. If there is a court order for him to have visitations I don't think it would be all that simple for her to get one either. She would have to go through the court and get a modified order or sole custody. If there is no order in place then she can just refuse to allow him any contact with you. If she doesn't go to court to get sole custody or do whatever it takes to keep you from him then maybe you need to call Child Protective Services but that could be scary because they may leave you with him and then he would treat you worse. Also you could try talking to a school counselor or someone.

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Originally Posted by N0help4u

You live with him and you are only a kid so it would be up to you to talk to your mom and tell her you are scared for your safety. You can't get a restraining order. Your mother would have to get one for you. If there is a court order for him to have visitations I don't think it would be all that simple for her to get one either. She would have to go through the court and get a modified order or sole custody. If there is no order in place then she can just refuse to allow him any contact with you. If she doesn't go to court to get sole custody or do whatever it takes to keep you from him then maybe you need to call Child Protective Services but that could be scary because they may leave you with him and then he would treat you worse. Also you could try talking to a school counselor or someone.

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My dad has sole custody and my mom already said she would get a restraining order but once the restraing order ends will I have to see him again or evn live with him and are you sure that I this situation my mom can definitely get a restraining order

If your dad has sole custody of you I don't think it would be that easy for your mom to get a restraining order.
Once there is a restraining order then your dad can not have any contact with you.
Your mom needs to talk to a lawyer or somebody on the most quick easiest way to get you removed from his home because if you go about it the wrong way he could end up having CPS or others in his face about it and then he would take it out on you.

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Originally Posted by N0help4u

If your dad has sole custody of you I don't think it would be that easy for your mom to get a restraining order.
Once there is a restraining order then your dad can not have any contact with you.
Your mom needs to talk to a lawyer or somebody on the quickest easiest way to get you removed from his home because if you go about it the wrong way he could end up having CPS or others in his face about it and then he would take it out on you.

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Next week my mom is visiting me and what if I go to the police station with her to tell them about how he treats me in person then would they

You can tell the police but I think it would also be important to make family court aware of it.
They made the order they are the only ones that can change the order. The police may be able to do something in the meantime so yeah go with your mom to the police station. Make sure your dad has no idea where you are going.

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You can tell the police but I think it would also be important to make family court aware of it.
They made the order they are the only ones that can change the order. The police may be able to do something in the meantime so yeah go with your mom to the police station. Make sure your dad has no idea where you are going.

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OK so I should go to the police and get a restraining order, then I should have my mom do what with family court, sorry.oh yea, what do you mean by"They made the order they are the only ones that can change the order"

Why does your dad have sole custody?
Did the court order it?

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Why does your dad have sole custody?
Did the court order it?

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Well I don't know I went to court because 9 months ago I broke a window, and then me and my mom thought it would be good for dicepline, me living with my dad we told the court that and they said all right,and let me livewith him

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i want to live with my mom because my dad mentally abuses me calls me stupid little girly , when i told him last time that i wanted to live with my mom he was driving me to school he stopped we went home and he yelled at me untill i was affraid to say i wanted to live with my mom and then blamed me for making him be late for work for yelling at me, he talks bad about my mom, he said,"your mom's lying i never hit her but ishould have hit her","all lyers should be shot in the head in a line with your mom first sayin i'm a lyer i'm an f%$#in lyer,some joke about like breaking her legs, always compares me to her in bad ways he called me a slacker and not responsible because when i changed the trash i forgot to put a new bag in there, he said i'll always be smarter than you and all your friends put together, he always asks if i talk bad about him like 3 times when i come back from my moms, he's threatened to hit me around 6 times like when he's mad he'll say do you want me to hit you, your next answer better not be stupid because i'm getting pissed off he said something like i'll floor you if you text message. i'm scared i get so nervous sometimes that i shake, my heart beats really fast all day, and i feel sick from stress, i get little red spots on my chest, i also have alopecia and when i was little when i got stressed out my hair came out. i want to know if i can move back with my mother and possibly get a restraining rder on my dad for everything that i just told you but if my dad finds out then i dion't know what he'll do so i want him not to find out just to live with my mom

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If your father has Court-ordered custody your mother (with you as a witness) has to go back to Court and file for a change of custody, citing (and proving) what you have just said, that this is a dangerous situation for you.

I don't see you getting a protective order against your father when you live with him - first you get a change in custody, then you get a protective order (if the Court will order it).

If you get a protective order and leave your father's house there is absolutely no guarantee you will live with your mother and not be ordered into foster care until the dust settles and a guardian can be appointed or custody can be changed.

A lot depends on why you live with your father - and how old are you?

Exactly you need to get out of his house before you can get a restraining order.
If there is no court order that you have to stay with your dad then that is a plus
But as Judy said the court could feel your mothers is not a safe place since your dad could come and harass you even with an order. So they could put you into temporary placement until they feel you would be safe with your mother.
If your mother could move no forwarding address that your dad could find you that would be safest.

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If your father has Court-ordered custody your mother (with you as a witness) has to go back to Court and file for a change of custody, citing (and proving) what you have just said, that this is a dangerous situation for you.

I don't see you getting a protective order against your father when you live with him - first you get a change in custody, then you get a protective order (if the Court will order it).

If you get a protective order and leave your father's house there is absolutely no guarantee you will live with your mother and not be ordered into foster care until the dust settles and a guardian can be appointed or custody can be changed.

A lot depends on why you live with your father - and how old are you?

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But I don't want my dad to find out that I want to live with my mom before it happeneds because then he'll be mad at me and I'll go to a foster home I don't care anywhere but here but I don't have proof he pushed me once he treatens me he talks about hurting my mom but I don't have proof I'm 15 I wanted to go to the police in a week next time my mom takes me and telling them but if he finds out that I want to leave then I can't deal with him yelling at me and would I be protected from him until he went to court

If there is no court order that you have to stay with your mom there should be some way for you to get to a safe place and then your mom go for sole custody. But you need to get a good plan that isn't going to put you in danger of having to be with him once the $h!+ hits the fan. That is why I said it might be best for her to talk to a lawyer and/or the police. You need a good plan. If the court never said you have to live with your dad there are shelters for abused woman and if your mom is willing to stay at one of those with you until this is resolved then that might even be an option

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but i don't want my dad to find out that i want to live with my mom before it happeneds because then he'll be mad at me and i'll go to a foster home i don't care anywhere but here but i don't have proof he pushed me once he treatens me he talks about hurting my mom but i don't have proof i'm 15 i wanted to go to the police in a week next time my mom takes me and telling them but if he finds out that i want to leave then i can't deal with him yelling at me and would i be protected from him until he went to court

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Why do you live with your father? Is it by Court order?

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Exactly you need to get out of his house before you can get a restraining order.
If no forwarding address that your dad could find you that would be safest.

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My dad pushed me and I can get a protective order for that,but do I need proof that he did,if I got one would they make me stay at my dad's house or would I be able to go in a foster home or even live at my mom's apartment

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but i don't want my dad to find out that i want to live with my mom before it happeneds because then he'll be mad at me and i'll go to a foster home i don't care anywhere but here but i don't have proof he pushed me once he treatens me he talks about hurting my mom but i don't have proof i'm 15 i wanted to go to the police in a week next time my mom takes me and telling them but if he finds out that i want to leave then i can't deal with him yelling at me and would i be protected from him until he went to court

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Again - why do you live with your father? Is it by Court order?

If it is this bad the next time you go to your mother's she should file for an emergency custody order - and you don't go back to your father's house. No one is going to come and drag you back if a hearing is pending. I do not see the Police getting involved in this unless you have been physically harmed.

Then at the hearing you tell the Court what you've said here and the Judge will decide what is best for you - the Court may very well appoint someone to interview and evaluate you, your father, your mother and then they will decide.

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my dad pushed me and i can get a protective order for that,but do i need proof that he did,if i got one would they make me stay at my dad's house or would i be able to go in a foster home or even live at my mom's appartment

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You can try but it will be your word against his and, as you said, he will get advance notice before the hearing.

Your mother needs to go to Family Court - now - and file for a change in custody.

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If there is no court order that you have to stay with your mom there should be some way for you to get to a safe place and then your mom go for sole custody. But you need to get a good plan that isn't going to put you in danger of having to be with him once the $h!+ hits the fan. That is why I said it might be best for her to talk to a lawyer and/or the police. You need a good plan. If the court never said you have to live with your dad there are shelters for abused woman and if your mom is willing to stay at one of those with you until this is resolved then that might even be an option

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I went to court for breaking a window then we asked to live there and they said yes but I don't know if it was court ordered but so do you think I can get a protecctive order for him pushing me

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but i don't want my dad to find out that i want to live with my mom before it happeneds because then he'll be mad at me and i'll go to a foster home i don't care anywhere but here but i don't have proof he pushed me once he treatens me he talks about hurting my mom but i don't have proof i'm 15 i wanted to go to the police in a week next time my mom takes me and telling them but if he finds out that i want to leave then i can't deal with him yelling at me and would i be protected from him until he went to court

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If I tell them what I told you about him will they change the custody that day

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i went to court for breaking a window then we asked to live there and they said yes but i don't know if it was court ordered but so do you think i can get a protecctive order for him pushing me

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In one word, no. Again, if you simply file for a restraining order he will be notified of the Court date and then you will go back to his house and live there until it is heard.

And I don't think you have sufficient proof -

Why are you having difficulty with your Mom going back to Court and getting custody of you?

When did you start living with your father?