I am married since 5 year. We don't have kid. Wife is working. Her one of office colleague is very close to both of us. He is Like a family member. We all spending the whole week together in the evening, His wife is not staying with him. She is in India.

Till yesterday I was happily married men. Yesterday my wife was preparing food in the kitchen. Then he went for a glass of water in kitchen. After 2 minute I also went in the kitchen for water. I saw that he is kissing my wife. I was shocked. Still I am shocked.
I told that guy to leave my house. Then I asked my wife about this. She told that it happened by mistake. She also surprised by his behavior. When I forced her to tell the truth then she said before also he touched her back. But that time I warned and he said that it will never happen again ? She is saying that I will get angry that's why she didn't tell me. I asked her ehy you didn't try to oppose she is saying that when he started in between you came. It's happened in seconds.
She is saying that it was not her mistake. Past 2 days I am in disturb state. Every time that scene is coming in my mind. I don't understand what I do ? In between she is saying that I am blaming her for "That was not her mistake".

Do u think that what see is saying is right ? Please advice me.

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Originally Posted by rajewkr

I am married since 5 year. we don't have kid. wife is working. her one of office colleague is very close to both of us. He is Like a family member. We all spending the whole week together in the evening, His wife is not staying with him. she is in India.

Till yesterday i was happily married men. yesterday my wife was preparing food in the kitchen. Then he went for a glass of water in kitchen. after 2 minute i also went in the kitchen for water. I saw that he is kissing my wife. I was shocked. Still i am shocked.
I told that guy to leave my house. Then i asked my wife about this. she told that it happened by mistake. she also surprised by his behavior. when i forced her to tell the truth then she said before also he touched her back. But that time i warned and he said that it will never happen again ? she is saying that i will get angry that's why she didn't tell me. I asked her ehy u didn't try to oppose she is saying that when he started in between you came. It's happend in seconds.
she is saying that it was not her mistake. Past 2 days i am in disturb state. Every time that scene is coming in my mind. I don't understand what i do ? In between she is saying that i am blaming her for "That was not her mistake".

Do u think that waht see is saying is right ? Please advice me.

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I think a woman looks away from her husband when her needs are NOT being met at home. When is the last time you tenderly touched your wife? Treat her like a thoroughbread and she will never become an old nag.
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Let me see your friend made a pass at our wife, and you are mad at your wife?? And this is for from having an affair. I think you need to work on your relationship with your wife and stop having men over to your home all the time

Marriage can survive anything thrown at it when the married people are forgiving, loving, aware and attentive. Even if she DID participate in the kiss, stop the third degree and get back to the job of being her loving, attentive husband.

You PROMISED you would forgive her mistakes when you got married. You promised ahead of time. Now make good on your promise, and consider some legal evil you can do to your now-ex male friend.

Give your wife the benefit of the doubt until you are sure of anything.
She may have been caught off guard with him kissing her and was trying to think of the best way to tell him DON'T.
I kind of think that if there was something between him and your wife she would not have invited him over. She needs to stand up to him and tell him to not touch her in any way any more.

Don't take everything happened in negative aspect, as your wife said it may be a mistake that happens in seconds, you should feel free to discuss everything with your wife. Don't even hide any issues to her, she'll do the same. Life is precious, when you lose it for a wrong thing, there won't be any return of life in future. Be patient and think positive, you'll get your life as good as new.