Anybody have any major arguments with siblings? What sort of methods can one use to get over these arguments?

I argue with my sister all the time. I think the best way to resolve it is to change the subject. Or simply admit they are right, or if that's too much. Just say, "I see your point", then change the subject.

If your sibling is anything like mine. Walk away, don't say anything or do anything, walk away. In a couple of minutes or hours everyone would be calmer and your argument often wasn't anything serious

I severed all ties with my brother over 15 years ago.Spoke only to him at my mother's funeral. Probably need to speak to him again when my father passes. There is nothing about him that enriches the life of myself or my family, so he is no longer a part of it.

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Originally Posted by firef1981

Anybody have any major arguments with siblings? What sort of methods can one use to get over these arguments?

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My bro once told me that he and we have more in common with each other than (with) anyone else. I can see that no one else can possibly understand 'where we're each coming from', both literally and figuratively, as well as us. We certainly had a unique upbringing. (Though each upbringing is unique).

Many times I've observed in my life, as well as others', that siblings are often the very best friends we have in our lives, and oftentimes, we don't even realize it.

Also, remember they are your closest relative;)

First of all, figure out what the argument was really about. You may have fought over spilled milk but most lilkly it was over something BIGGER. Then you go to your sibling, and say "i really am sorry for the things i said and what i did" (its always good to apolagize even if your sibling started it, apolagize cause then they'll be more willing to here your side.)
Then explain how you saw the promblem, tell your sibling what you saw was going on, and thigs from your point of view. He'll/she'll probably do the same. The trick is to calmly talk, there is however a high probablity that the sibling will be defensive at first.
But here is the key say"i want to move on, i want to put this behind" then kiss make up, and it will seem silly tomarrow. But the longer you wait to resolve this the harder it will be to forgive and forget. And resentment will grow.
Hope this helps

Just apologise. Say that you understand and move on to another subject. Don't go ignoring each other because it'll only prolong the anger, just get rid of that anger. Don't hold a grudge, it'll make you unhappy as well. Get rid of the annoying thoughts and just say sorry, change the subject, and I promise you'll both forget about it.