My sons mom got bored because she was not going out a lot I was working a lot and she had no one near her to party with so she decided she wonted to go From CA, to FL where she has friends in Family. She left me in my Son in CA I have since been chaptered out of the Army for not having a family care plain witch means no one that could care for my son if I was deployed. She has not paid any child support, or seen her son in 17 mounts. At first she only called for money than did not call for 7 mounts or so then started to call again.

Anyway I was not interfering with her seeing her son I gave her my Phone number, address, and told her she could come any time she wonted to see him she still has not been up to see him.

NOW with my Problem one of my sisters told me that she over heard her in one of my other sisters talking and that she plains on coming up on the 4th of July, she is saying that she is going to come in to the house pick up my son in when I try to get him back have me arrested for Child endangerment. Or domestic violence.

MY plain is to not lot her in the house. Call the police from the start in have her removed from the property CAN I do this? She is still married to me but does not reside at this house. Never has I live in north FL now. WHAT CAN I DO AND WHAT SHOULD I BE CAREFUL NOT TO DO.

You best bet, don't even see her, make sure locks are changed, go somewhere for the week. She can just take the child and leave for Fl and you can not phsycially stop her esp if there is no child custody order in place.

Talk to a lawyer is the thing to do. The thing NOT to do is try to get an answer on a discussion board.

July 4th is way too close. I'd get your son and be with several people you can trust (as witnesses), do not let her take the boy, do NOT get physical and if you think you can't deal with it without getting angry and making a mistake, let someone else talk for you and KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT.

Good advise thanks

If she tries that you need to point out that SHE LEFT him with YOU and hasn't been concerned all this time so why is she making these false accusations.
I think the best thing you can do is change all the locks, lock all the windows and go on vacation if you can. Even if it is to a friends that she wouldn't know or as able dog said be surrounded by friends. If you do go away tell your neighbors to watch your place.
Also you should go and file for full custody and state because of abandonment.

Man I am in the same boat I'm in iraq right now my wife is got my son can I just go and get him my wife did the same thing but she started this stuff after I lift but I'm going to call child services of nc on her cuase there is a lot more to the story but do you know if I can get my son or have any advice for me because I do have a child care plan in order but the thing is getting my son first what can I do

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Originally Posted by DUSTIN 555

man i am in the same boat im in iraq right now my wife is got my son can i just go and get him my wife did the same thing but she started this stuff after i lift but im going to call child services of nc on her cuase there is alot more to the story but do you know if i can get my son or have any advice for me cus i do have a child care plan in order but the thing is gettin my son first what can i do

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As you said in your post you are in Iraq so there isn't much you can do other than what has already been suggested to you in your post.
You might try getting a family member to help and see what they can do on your behalf.