Just broke up with me girlfriend.want her back.
First time poster. I appreciate any thoughts and advice in advance. I'm going to be honest and forthright and not hold anything back. Thanks again for your time.
All right, my girlfriend of 1 1/2 years broke up with me two weeks ago. She and I have broken up and gotten back together 2 times before hand. The first time was over me not providing enough attention or appreciation. After a few days of telling her I would give her all she needed, she came back. Things were great for another two months, but then she cheated on me with a guy. She didn't sleep with him, only made out with him, but she broke up with me because she had betrayed me. I still wanted her and I let her know that and got back together a week later.
Again, everything was fine for a month, but then we had unprotected sex and I panicked and suggested that she take the morning after pill to be sure. Well, she did , but a week later she started feeling horrible and bleeding profusely and she got really angry with me for asking her to take that pill. She also said that by having her take the pill, it was as if I was saying that I never wanted to have kids with her or marry her. That is not true, because I do want to marry her and raise a family with her someday because I do love her, but we weren't ready for a child yet, so I asked sher to take the pill. A couple weeks after she stopped bleeding, she got her regular period and I was really happy about that(because sometimes the pill doesn't work, so I was glad to see that it did) Went she saw how happy I was that she got her period, she got very upset and accused me of not wanting to have children with her.
Anyway, we went through a small break for that one, but I was willing to work things out and we eventually did. Things were good for another month, up until 2 weeks ago when she made out with one of her ex boyfriends who was in town for the weekend. So, even though she didn't sleep with him, she still cheated on me again. And as a result, she broke up with me to avoid hurting me in the future. But what is interesting, is that 3 days before she cheated, she told me that she couldn't wait to be married to me and that she couldn't wait to have kids with me. I agreed with her, because I do want to marry her.
But now, it has been two weeks since we broke up and I have been in contact with her a few times since then. She now says that she hates me because I made her take that pill, and she accuses me of not wanting to have kids with her. She says that she cheated on me because of that pill and that she did it to escape from me. She says that I don't care about her and that I never wanted to marry her. She tells me to rot in hell and to leave her alone.
The truth is, I DO want to marry her. More than anything. I love her that much and am willing to work on all our problems, because we certainly have them. But it appears right now that she doesn't. When we have broken up in the past, she has basically told me the same things as she is now, so I'm not entirely convinced that we're completely over.
I know that she cheated on me twice and I admit that I haven't been a saint either, but I truly love this girl and do want to spend the rest of my life with her. I'm willing to forgive her for what she did to me, I just want her to forgive me for making her take that pill.
I know that she still loves me because she has never denied it. Even though we're going through this mess, not once has she said or implied that she doesn't love me anymore. In addition, all of her friends that I have spoken with say that she still loves me, but is very upset with me right now.
My current plan of action is to stay away and have no contact for a month. After a month I plan to contact her again and try to reconcile.
Thanks for reading. I appreciate any advice or opinion any of you may have. I just want to know if I have a shot.