I found naked pics of my bf's ex in his drawer. I knew she was sending him letters and regular pics before because she said she wanted him back... but he NEVER showed me these pics. I was so pissed I just left and I really just want to end it with him. Should I? If he's keeping secrets why would I want to keep him around. BTW, we've been dating for a year.:confused:

Are these pics sent since you two have been together? Why is he still accepting her letters? This is a great reason to not trust him.

As a guy I say get out of it and fast...
Today in his drawer tomorrow in his bed [or maybe its already happening]
Sorry but its really unhealthy
You deserve better

Oh give me a break! Men are visually aroused, it turns her on to show him what he is mission out on, and it turns him on to see the flesh. I bet the night he got those pics you two had great sex, you might of even thought to yourself, "What got into him"? If he has no desire to be with her, he is still your man, and leaving because he has male tendencies is not a great idea.

Leaving because he lied about whether he is messing with her is a totally different subject.

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Originally Posted by SmartNsexa

Oh give me a break! Men are visually aroused, it turns her on to show him what he is missing out on, and it turns him on to see the flesh. I bet the night he got those pics you two had great sex, you might have even thought to yourself, "What got into him"? If he has no desire to be with her, he is still your man, and leaving because he has male tendencies is not a great idea.

Leaving because he lied about whether he is messing with her is a totally different subject.

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So if your significant other was receiving and KEEPING naked pictures of their ex, you wouldn't be bothered? You wouldn't mind that he is still accepting her letters? He's telling her its acceptable. He's being dishonest and sneaky. These are all qualities you want in a significant other?

As long as he is thinking of Codelle when they had the sex if they did, that's fine
But was he?

And even then its not right again Im a guy what would I know

He shoud have been throwing her letters out, or merely sending them back unopened. IF he was getting them, he needed to have told you what she was doing. I would say too many issues, get out

I agree with Chuck, h should have never opened the letters, put return to sender on the envelopes and dropped it in the mailbox. And he should have told his girlfriend about it. He's being dishonest, why put yourself through a dishonest relationship that will just hurt you in the end?

MAybe its me, but it wasn't clear that the pictures were sent within the last year. Is it possible that they were sent to him while they were going out and he has just yet to get rid of them? Granted, they probably should be boxed away, but that's much better than receiving naked pictures while the two of you are dating.

Sounds as if your b/f isn't handling his business very well with the ex. When were the pictures sent? If there old, they should be put away, if they are recent he should have told her to back off, and refused any contact from someone who is romantically interested. Leave those pictures where he can find them, so he knows you saw them, and make yourself unavailable.

I agree with Tal, if they are old they should be gone. New, you should be gone.

Personally, when me and my ex split, EVERYTHING got deleted. Pictures, e-mails, messages, saved texts, basically anything from her.

They are your past, if you live in the past you can't enjoy the present

I agree,in that,why put up with dishonesty?? (there's NO need for it! )

Also,leave the past,in the past!!

If there was nothing morally wrong about keeping them then why hide them?? Because he's a looser! Get out and find someone who will give u there UNDIVIDED attention! Xx

I'm going to have to disagree with the people that said he should have PUT THEM AWAY, He should have THROWN THEM AWAY if they are from before. I know I wouldn't want naked pictures of someone that my boyfriend used to sleep with in my house.

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I'm going to have to disagree with the people that said he should have PUT THEM AWAY, He should have THROWN THEM AWAY if they are from before. I know I wouldn't want naked pictures of someone that my boyfriend used to sleep with in my house.

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Once again, I completely agree. Nothing more to add to that.

Personally I wouldn't allow my boyfriend to have old or new naked pics of his ex, that is a big fat NO! He shouldn't even be talking to her or having any kind of contact with her. You need to find out what's going on, and if he wants to get back with her ditch him, and if he wants to stay with you then he needs to end contact with her and toss those pics.

OK just to get all the facts out. My boyfriend is from jamaica and so is she(she still lives there). We met a month after he got here and have been datin ever since. He was talking to her behind my back and I found out so I told him to stop and he agreed, but a little while later I found out he was still talking to her so we broke up but got back together. Then after that she kept sending letters and pics he showed me them, they were actually a joke for us but he never showed me the naked pics. So yes, they're old but I never even knew about them. UPDATE: I broke up wit him last night because of the whole sit. But he came to my window and literally would not stop throwing pebbles at my window until I agreed to talk to him. I have no idea what to do.

What did you tell him and what did he say to you? Did you tell him that you will not accept his ex's writing to him or even sending any kinds of pics? Does he understand how you feel? I think you should really talk with him and then see how you feel.

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ok just to get all the facts out. my bf is from jamaica n so is she(she still lives there). we met a month after he got here n have been datin ever since. he was talkin to her behind my back n i found out so i told him to stop n he agreed, but a little while later i found out he was still talkin to her so we broke up but got back together. then after that she kept sending letters n pics he showed me them, they were actually a joke for us but he never showed me the naked pics. so yes, they're old but i never even knew about them. UPDATE: I broke up wit him last nite because of the whole sit. but he came to my window n literally would not stop throwin pebbles at my window until i agreed to talk to him. I have no idea wat to do.

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Dump him, don't ever talk to him again. This is a recipe for heartbreak.