I have a good friend that is always talking about how he masturbates, how he's always doing it, techniques he uses etc. and we are quite open about sexually matters, Anyway he doesn't know I'm actually Bi and these days when his talking about masturbating which is a lot.. I really start getting aroused by his comments and want to make a move on him or ask him if he's interested , but don't want to mess our friendship up... any advice on how I can make the first move ? We're drinking at his place this weekend , maybe it's a good chance but still need an approach" Hmmmm..

I wouldn't do that because you might ruin the friendship. IF you don't know how he feels, you might end up really making him uncomfortable. Maybe he is just sharing guy talk with you, especially because he doesn't know that you are bi. I would be very cautious and maybe get his opinion by talking about the subject of someone being gay or whatever and see how he responds, if its positive, then you have more of a reason to think that he might not be offended by your "first move" IF he responds negatively, than you know he is not comfortable with that and you still save the friendship.

Odd, it might be a generational thing but bragging about spankking the monkey is something I or any guy I know has NEVER done. Oh we will brag about how many women we did, maybe even how we did them in some cases... but never about spanking the monkey. That was always taboo.

But his gayness or biness I can't comment on. I know a few guys like this but that's turf I'm not familiar with.

Depending on your age, I think he is trying to turn you on. Sexy talk is part of "foreplay", not conversation initiated just for the heck of it. His talk is definitely very sexual. :D

So, the ball is in your court. Friend or lover?

Reminds me of guys in jr high or maybe high school years ago. Often bragginig about how big, how long it will last and how many times you were doing it.

Or perhaps he knows you are bi and is messing with you.

The trouble with this, you can move on, if you don't risk, so you either have to be open about your sexual tastes and live with the results or just leave it the way it is.

If your good friends maybe you can address the issue of you being bi or maybe thinking you are, see his response. If you just hang out drinking buddies you may lose that if he is not on the same page as you. Bi-sexuality is a touchy subject with some straight men. I agree with Fr_Chuck maybe he is feeling you out to see what he may already know.
It is a chance you will have to take lose a good friend, drinking buddy or get a new lover ;) Good Luck!

Why not be bold ansd say "I wouldn't mind watching you do that-I'm bisexual" you qwill know the answer to all of the questions you seek. At the same time-if he is offended by any of that, I'm sure he will not bring up his masturbatory stories to YOU anymore...

Sometimes guys joke around about things in a way I don't like. I am straight, but not homophobic. Supposedly straight guys will say things that are almost flirty. Sort of, but not really, if that makes sense. I'd say, fire back in a "guy" way, and say, "oh, you are getting me so horny, baby, stop or I'll have to do something about it." He'll shut up. Or... maybe not.

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Originally Posted by shibuyaguy

I have a good friend that is always talking about how he masturbates, how he's always doing it, techniques he uses etc. and we are quite open about sexually matters, Anyways he doesn't know I'm actually Bi and these days when his talking about masturbating which is a lot.. I really start getting aroused by his comments and wanna make a move on him or ask him if he's interested , but don't wanna mess our friendship up ... any advice on how I can make the first move ? we're drinking at his place this weekend , maybe its a good chance but still need an approach" Hmmmm..

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You can ask them does he ever masturbate on man .

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Originally Posted by shibuyaguy

I have a good friend that is always talking about how he masturbates, how he's always doing it, techniques he uses etc. and we are quite open about sexually matters, Anyways he doesn't know I'm actually Bi and these days when his talking about masturbating which is a lot.. I really start getting aroused by his comments and wanna make a move on him or ask him if he's interested , but don't wanna mess our friendship up ... any advice on how I can make the first move ? we're drinking at his place this weekend , maybe its a good chance but still need an approach" Hmmmm..

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If you think a sexual experience with him would be way better than just friendship just tell him you bi and make a move! If you value the friendship more just leave that situation alone and ask him not to talk about masturbating because it makes you uncomfortable... simple right??

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Originally Posted by shibuyaguy

I have a good friend that is always talking about how he masturbates, how he's always doing it, techniques he uses etc. and we are quite open about sexually matters, Anyways he doesn't know I'm actually Bi and these days when his talking about masturbating which is a lot.. I really start getting aroused by his comments and wanna make a move on him or ask him if he's interested , but don't wanna mess our friendship up ... any advice on how I can make the first move ? we're drinking at his place this weekend , maybe its a good chance but still need an approach" Hmmmm..

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