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  • Jun 24, 2008, 09:55 PM
    ssjay22
    Being to clingy
    OK so before my boyfriend and I started going out I noticed him being way to clingy on me. Always wanting to touch me where ever we go, and always wanting to be there. I got annoyed of it really fast and I told him to kind of back off. I don't do clinginess at all. After I told him to back off he did and everything was fine. Now ere going out and I can notice the clingy ness coming back. He allways wants to hold me when were walking or sitting. I'm the type of girl that can stand on my own two feet. How can I tell him to lay off a bit with out hurting his feelings?
  • Jun 24, 2008, 11:21 PM
    Treeny
    Tell him the truth. Talk to him and tell him that it bothers you and that there is a time and place for it and you are not one for public shows of affection, and that you are just not a touchy feely type of person. If it last it will prob die down any way.
  • Jun 25, 2008, 12:04 AM
    JBeaucaire
    He wants to show affection. He wants to physically connect with you. Some of that is his hormones trying to get into your parts, but I'd say it's also a reflection of how he needs to show his affection.

    You call it clingy? He calls it intimacy. He wants it, and you're telling him to step off.

    So, you really like this guy? Doesn't sound like it so far, his needs appear to completely irrelevant to you.

    He needs a girl who likes affection and hand-holding and doesn't look down on him for it. You need a guy who's more aloof and "cool". Maybe you should throw this fish back into the pond and try your next one.

    Not all guys are like that, I'm sure you'd both be happier with someone more to your liking.
  • Jun 25, 2008, 12:52 AM
    ylaira
    Ur one in a million who doesn't like to be touched but anyway, if he starts touching you, you may shove his hands a bit and don't stay in one place if your together so he won't hug you.
  • Jun 25, 2008, 07:08 AM
    confused1145
    This is his way of showing you how he feels. If the two of you are dating, what's the problem?
  • Jun 28, 2008, 12:07 PM
    talaniman
    It's the little things that grow into big irritable ones. Talk about it. He may have something's that irritate him too. Like being pushed away, and turned off, by his show of affection. This is a challenge to be met, and resolved. If you can't resolve it to the benefit of you both, other challenges that come up will be all the more difficult.

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