I dated this guy for 10 months and I was sure I loved him. Then, spring came and I wasn't sure if I still wanted to be with him and we decided we wanted to take a break and get back together later. It was 2 months and we hadn't spoken and when we finally did he told me he had a new girlfriend. And it is a serious relationship. I want him back so much and did before I found out about his new girlfriend (thats why I called him). But he really wants to give his new relationship a chance. I met her and everything and she is just like me only shorter. This bothers me so much! I love him and she even told me she wasn't sure if she loved him yet. I'm not the type of person to cry and I feel like crying it out is the only thing that will help me get over him. I hung out with him the other day and now we are great friends again but I want to be more than friends. I just want to get over this pain I feel. I can flirt and like other guys but I don't want to be with anyone else and I just want to be able to say I've moved on and mean it. How do I get over him with out being a total slut?

There's no such word or thing that can get u over that in a snap. Only TIME but in between u have an option to either BE PRODUCTIVE or MISERABLE.

Remember everybody goes through it unless they MARRY their first love and do the happily ever after thing.

Getting over a love interest and being a slut aren't the least bit related. Why did you throw that in at the end? Was he your first sexual exp. Too?

Dating others, having sex with others, that doesn't make you a slut. Sleeping around for the sport of it... that's slutty behavior. That's easy enough to NOT do, right?

First love... second love... third love... none of them will be forgotten. But it's called "first" love because invariably there is a second... and a third. It's OK. It's OK to hurt right now, too. It's OK to whine about it, it's OK to beat yourself up a little about what you did to contribute to losing your guy. All of that's OK.

It's not ok to cripple yourself over it. It's just life, normal, silly old life. Life happens. The hurt is part of the joy of living. The pain you feel now only accentuates your future love, truly.

You're going to be fine. Remember it all, shake off the crippling effects and face your future... it's coming already. Don't miss it.

Cut all contact with him and pursue making yourself happy and enjoying yourself. Easy to say but a lot of work on your part. Forget about being friends for now, your not ready.