Hey guys,

Not sure if I chose the right topic for my question. But anyway, I just recently broke up with my boyfriend and I'm feeling down. I'm turning 24 in October and I feel like in this society 24 is really old to be newly single and starting over again..

I see so many people already married and starting families by my age.. and it's bad for women to have children over 30.. I just feel like it's going to be a while before I'm ready to see anybody, and by that time I'll probably be 25 or 26 before I meet another person, and then it's going to be another 2 years of dating before I decide to marry, and if that person's not right then I'm back where I started... and I'm that much older.

Am I wrong to think that? It's sad that this society puts so much into youth and I already feel like I'm getting old.. It's a strange feeling.

Okay, you're just BARELY an adult at 24. Maybe not legally, but mentally, most people I meet don't have their act together until they're 24 or so.

I wasn't even CLOSE to being ready to have a baby until I was about 30--and I'm 33 now. It's perfectly fine to have children in your 30s--and in many cases, better for the kids, because you're more established.

Enjoy being single. Seriously. You have PLENTY of time to find the RIGHT guy, and not just "a" guy.

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Originally Posted by plonak

Hey guys,

Not sure if I chose the right topic for my question. But anyways, I just recently broke up with my boyfriend and I'm feeling down. I'm turning 24 in October and I feel like in this society 24 is really old to be newly single and starting over again..

I see so many people already married and starting families by my age.. and it's bad for women to have children over 30.. I just feel like it's going to be a while before I'm ready to see anybody, and by that time i'll probably be 25 or 26 before I meet another person, and then it's going to be another 2 years of dating before I decide to marry, and if that person's not right then I'm back where I started...and I'm that much older.

Am I wrong to think that? It's sad that this society puts so much into youth and I already feel like I'm getting old.. It's a strange feeling.

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Marriage is not something you rush into. Yes, I got married at 24, but now that I look back, I probably could have waited a few more years just to enjoy some of my freedom. I love being married, but sometimes, you just want some time to yourself. So enjoy your freedom and when the right person comes along you will know and you will be ready. Work on yourself now and enjoy your freedom. Marriage comes with children and a lot of sacrifice. You can enjoy your life by taking yourself on cruises, going on vacations with friends, etc. Let your life be good now so that when that man comes along, he will know that you are used to nice things and had a great life before him. Then your world won't just revolve around him. Good luck.

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Originally Posted by plonak

Hey guys,

Not sure if I chose the right topic for my question. But anyways, I just recently broke up with my boyfriend and I'm feeling down. I'm turning 24 in October and I feel like in this society 24 is really old to be newly single and starting over again..

I see so many people already married and starting families by my age.. and it's bad for women to have children over 30.. I just feel like it's going to be a while before I'm ready to see anybody, and by that time i'll probably be 25 or 26 before I meet another person, and then it's going to be another 2 years of dating before I decide to marry, and if that person's not right then I'm back where I started...and I'm that much older.

Am I wrong to think that? It's sad that this society puts so much into youth and I already feel like I'm getting old.. It's a strange feeling.

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Where do you live? Because, if anything, I feel the opposite. More and more people are opting to get married later in life and there are many who are deciding against marriage. And in the larger urban areas, studies have shown that for people over the age of 30, more people are not married...

I live in California.. Yeah I know that people are getting married later in the 21 century, but I still feel like A LOT of people are already tied down, and I worry that all the good guys are snagged up and taken..

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Originally Posted by plonak

Hey guys,

Not sure if I chose the right topic for my question. But anyways, I just recently broke up with my boyfriend and I'm feeling down. I'm turning 24 in October and I feel like in this society 24 is really old to be newly single and starting over again..

I see so many people already married and starting families by my age.. and it's bad for women to have children over 30.. I just feel like it's going to be a while before I'm ready to see anybody, and by that time i'll probably be 25 or 26 before I meet another person, and then it's going to be another 2 years of dating before I decide to marry, and if that person's not right then I'm back where I started...and I'm that much older.

Am I wrong to think that? It's sad that this society puts so much into youth and I already feel like I'm getting old.. It's a strange feeling.

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I know what you mean, I'm 19 and people are telling me I'm to old to be single. But no we are not, there is not an age you can't be single at! Your just lucky you get to try again, life isn't life without lots of let downs, you'll jump back up and find a nice guy one day

Take it from someone who didn't loose her virginity until she was 24. And thought she would NEVER EVER find the love of her life. You will be fine. Now that you are FREE... one of the few times in your life you will be able to do what YOU want to do, when YOU want to do it. Without worring about a husband and kids. Right now is the best time of your life. Do that one thing you always wanted to. Work on building YOUR life and the rest will fall right into place. Just when you think you got your stuff together. You will meet Mr. Right and the rest of your life will begin. With each door that closes another opens. I didn't get married until I was 30 which gave me time to find myself and gave my husband time to find me too... lol

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I feel like in this society 24 is really old to be newly single and starting over again...

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That's personal insecurity, it's not real. Don't let fear become cultural dogma for you, no one in society worth listening to says anything like that at all. No one.

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I see so many people already married and starting families by my age.

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... and I see a BUNCH of them getting divorced. Stop comparing random families. Life is a journey, not a snapshot.

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... and it's bad for women to have children over 30.

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Well, there's fibs, lies, and damn lies. That one qualifies as a "damn lie." Anyone who says that to you is spreading their personal dogma. Ignore them.

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I just feel like it's going to be a while before I'm ready to see anybody, and by that time I'll probably be 25 or 26 before I meet another person, and then it's going to be another 2 years of dating before I decide to marry, and if that person's not right then I'm back where I started... and I'm that much older. Am I wrong to think that?

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Not at all, not wrong at all! It sounds like a GREAT plan. Smart, listen to that, do that. Good job.

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It's sad that this society puts so much into youth and I already feel like I'm getting old.

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See, I TOLD YOU it was you, not society, creating this false issue based on a random calendar date. Cut that out. And stop putting your fears onto us (society). (hehe)

You're fine. You're afraid, but keep your feet on the ground. I mean, even though your premise of this thread is wrong (24 is too old to be single), what if it weren't? You're still 24 and still single, so you STILL have to go on with your life, eh?

Cut yourself some slack. Life is hard enough without adding drama over things that can't be changed... like your age.

Thank you JB,

I tried to give you a greenie, but apparently I have already given you too many..

I know what you mean, that it's my insecurities.. I need that slap in the face sometimes..

I am 26 and recently single. Sure other people are off having babies and getting married etc... but these other people also cannot experience much of what I am experiencing in the single life. You're telling me that a 25 year old who is married doesn't SOMETIMES wonder what it would be like to be single and free?

Amazing how our circumstances have such a profound effect on our moods, attitudes, and outlooks. You just got out of a relationship, so now your down and the whole world looks gray to you.

That only tells you that you can feel better if you want to. Your choice. Getting over a relationship doesn't have to be a bummer you know, you just have to be more proactive in the way you enjoy yourself. I know, who wants to have fun, when you have such a good reason to wallow in those lousy feelings of pity and gloom.

Whoops got to go, I just thought of something I would like to do.