Hello, I live in Arizona and my daughter lives in California. I already have a set visitation schedule set through my divorce. I was granted everyother weekends, alternate holidays with the exception of Mother's Day, Father's Day and Christmas Eve. I can't afford to drive down every other weekend to California and I have asked my ex to allow me to fly my daughter to AZ for visits. She said, "fine as long as you provide transportation to and from the airport. I will not take her or pick her up as I have things to do" I explained to her that my parents are now moving to AZ and I have no one else that can do me the favor. I asked her again to copperate, but she will not help. The relationship that we have is real bad, I feel that she take advantage of the fact that she can "allow" and "not allow" visits to happen some where else.

I only had 2 non-consecutive weeks in the summer, which she has recently agreed to 2 consecutive weeks at the beginning of summer and 2 consecutive weeks at the end of summer... but it's not legal through the court... does that still make it a legal agreement. What can I do to have more father's rights... I pay my child support and sometimes months in advance.

Until your parents move there how do you plan on getting her to and from the airport while you have things to do? I can understand your wife saying no unless YOU pick her up (at least until your parents get there). What if the other transportation ends up being unreliable? What if you get tied up with your 'things to do' and can not get home until later than your transportation drops her off?
You can probably modify the visitation order to time in the summer so it is legally but maybe you should wait until your parents get there so the Judge can over rule her trying to say they can not pick her up for you.

If I understand it right your ex is refusing to bring her to the airport in cali and picking her up there again when she returns. This is something that you will have to work out in court if you can't get it settled with your ex. I'm guessing that the visitation schedule was make after you moved, if not you need to go back to court anyway. Also if the two week visits were made just between the two of you then no, your ex dosen't have to let her go. I would strongly recommend going back to the court where the original order was made and try to have it revised given the new living arrangements.

Oh the wife said he would be required to get her to the California airport. That is totally unreasonable.

I would seriously rethink this visitation situation and go back to court. Make sure you get her for holidays and for a long period in the summer like 6 weeks so long as your child's school year isn't interfered with and they get at least a week with mom for summer vacation. The courts will tell her to be reasonable or else. How old is your child ? That will make a difference also as to what you can and can't do. In Cali courts anytime you want to make changes to custody then you have to have court ordered mediation. If she is being unreasonable then they will make the recommendation no mater how she feels. So long as your bearing the brunt of the cost for transportation then she will have to provide the rest. Good Luck.