Me and my fiancé been together for 5yrs so far and before he always wanted sex and now we have sex like only 1 time per week.. I want more because he ends up end I don't if I give him oral sex I want him to return the favore but he doesn't and I feel unconfterbol asking him strait up for it.. what do I do?

Try to casually try to get him to take care of your needs before you take care of his. Having had a couple Latin Girlfriends (actually different parts of Columbia) in the past I know some latin guys can be a bit lax as far as taking care of their women in this way. At least that's what they told me.

So next time instead of trying to get him to return the favor, have him take care of you first... then you can return the favor after.

Read She Comes First. Then give it to him. If he doesn't respond in kind by taking care of you first, you have the answer that you will face the rest of your life.

He sounds bored and lazy. It happens.

Is his health OK? Stress? Does he workout? Any issues when you do have sex... does he get you to orgasm? Does he drink? Smoke? Health issues? Are you on birth control?

And you are 5 years in... how old-ish? 20's? 30's? Older?

I don't think you can force someone to do something they don't want to do.

Oral sex still grosses out a lot of people.

Oral sex is pretty gross for both genders.
If you're not prepared to give, you lose the right to receive. It might be awkward, but if you tell him that he won't get any until you do, it'll probably help.

You want more sex? Try completely ignoring him for a while. Remind him of what he's missing out on. Wear something sexy in front of him then pay him no attention whatsoever. Hopefully you'll get his attention, let it build for a while. Don't give in too easily. Make sure he knows he wants you completely before you give in. Make him want you as much as possible and don't pander to his wants.

All the best,
Kal

People who are grossed out by oral sex have issues they need to resolve.

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Originally Posted by smoothy

People who are grossed out by oral sex have issues they need to resolve.

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As much as I absolutely love giving and receiving oral and commonly recommend it as being useful in the bedroom (esp performed on the woman) I think a person can have an absolutely healthy sex life without it... just as one can prefer not to "deep french kiss" or one can prefer not to engage in anal sex or porn and still be connected and engaged to their lover. Yes... you are leaving some great "tricks" in the bag, but that doesn't mean a person needs to straighten out their head.

I know a guy who just never wanted that performed on him. Thought the act was disgusting. So he had a "mental hangup" about it. OK. I believe he also had a great time in the sack. If anything, he didn't need it as a crutch.

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Originally Posted by kp2171

as much as i absolutely love giving and receiving oral and commonly recommend it as being useful in the bedroom (esp performed on the woman) i think a person can have an absolutely healthy sex life without it... just as one can prefer not to "deep french kiss" or one can prefer not to engage in anal sex or porn and still be connected and engaged to their lover. yes... you are leaving some great "tricks" in the bag, but that doesnt mean a person needs to straighten out their head.

i know a guy who just never wanted that performed on him. thought the act was disgusting. so he had a "mental hangup" about it. ok. i believe he also had a great time in the sack. if anything, he didnt need it as a crutch.

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But still its indications of "issues". Just like people who won't do it with the lights on, in the butt, in anything but missionary, or refuse to use birth control for whatever reason, heck there are people grossed out by germs or broccoli.

Just not wanting to do something is different from being grossed out by it.

Smoothy is right I am not grossed out by giving my husband oral sex it is just not my favorite thing to do. I love how much it pleasures him so I do it once in a while and because its not often he loves it more.

If your going to marry this man you need to tell him what you want in the bedroom, the kitchen, the color you want your livingroom. All of these things are issue you'll need to talk about just chalk sex up as another topic. Let him know you like sex with him and you want it more, let him know you would like to try other things (this is when you toss in oral on me). Make it about him tell him he is the best kisser and you'd like to know what else he may be able to do with his mouth. Feed him ever line you know about how great he is and then turn it around in your favor. Men have large egos they love to have them stroked

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Originally Posted by kellyjo

Men have large egos they love to have them stroked

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Lol.

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Originally Posted by latinbebe22

Me and my fiance been together for 5yrs so far and before he always wanted sex and now we have sex like only 1 time per week.. I want more because he ends up end I don't if I give him oral sex I want him to return the favore but he doesn't and I feel unconfterbol asking him strait up for it..what do I do?

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Five years??

Lose him. Engagements only last one year. After that its just an affair.

If he does not understand what you want and desire in the bed by now - I doubt if it will improve with marriage.

I have the same problem with my wife and we are only 3 years in. I just posted a question about My wife not want sex. When we have it her way we didn't have sex for over a month. And she said she could go years without sex!!

The way I told her is that anyone else would cheat if they are not please sexually and that I love her so much and I will never do that but I need to be pleased to.

It took her about 3 months until I started getting my way and now she complains we do it too much and now we do I love it like this but everyone who answer my question says that I have to calm down.

It as simply as some people are sexual and some aren't