After she broke up and then I let her use me because you know "i love u so much baby " well that got old so I told her to get lost, I'm on day 5 of no contact rule, she's called more now then when we were together, but not to say sorry or she misses me, but to taunt me, or send texts laughing, before the break up she would cut me down none stop, wouldn't call, or text, cut me down during sex or turn TV on while having sex, embarress me in public all the time, and build herself up to me, like how good she looks, blah, blah, blah, tell me all the time she will decide if I can see her on a daily bases, I really think she thinks she still has me wrap or she's a real nut. I've never stood up to her till now, and I will not give in. meybe her laughing is hiding something else? Its so clear to see once your away from the abuse then it is when your in it. You think she was treating me bad so I would think bad of myself? Because it didn't work, it opened my eyes.

Hi Eric,

Oh boy! She is just trying to push your buttons. Try and stay strong, and do not give it. Keep up the NC. It is the best thing that you can do. Obviously, she is looking for you to respond to her nonsense, but I wouldn't. You are better than this!

Yer stand strong... she acctually sounds really insecure so who knows maybe there is something else.. but don't stand for that crap..

My opinion:

She is very insecure and uncomfortable with herself. It's the classic school-yard bully who beats up on other kids to make himself feel better.

Having been in a relationship which I might have at times considered emotionally abusive, it is hard to walk away from. You feel like you are doing the wrong thing, but you must remember that your logic and rationale is a little skewed due to the things you have put up with. You need to remember that are you making the right decision and stick to it.

She sounds a little nutty. I had a ex friend like this and once I stop hanging around her she would taunt me as well by sending me ignoring messages, that made no sense, and leave me voicemail even laughing or again that made no sense. I had to change my number and found out a few months later she was in the nut house and label bipolar. All while being her friend I took he behavior as being too into herself, but I had a feeling deep inside something was wrong with her.

Don't put anything pass anyone because you never know these days. Even if you ignore her she can make it into something bigger. I would save everything just in case the cops might have to get involved. In the meanwhile continue what your doing, by paying her no mind but at the same time be cautious.

She doesn't sound like the kind of woman you would want to be with for the rest of your life:( you made the right choice... you want someone to be by your side 100%. You want them to love you for you. It sounds like she is a real b****, and not a genuine person.

I agree, there's no going back now. She can treat you like crap and you finally leave and she wants you to say your sorry. She turns everything around you you're the one wrong. Sorry is a word she doesn't know. I guess my clue should have been when she said she will give no more then 30% in this relationship, and when I ask her what she brings to this relationship she said herself, that's enough and any guy would be happy, then she dump me. What the hell was I thinking,

Change your cellphone number
Sounds simple? Just do it give yourself freedom

She is a self centered nut for sure, and now that your free of her, keep it that way. Changing your number is a good start, or at least screening your calls. I would be blocking all the avenues of contacting you she has.

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clue should have been when she said she will give no more then 30% in this relationship, and when i ask her what she brings to this relationship she said herself, thats enough and any guy would be happy

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You are much better off without her.

I know its tough to see at times, but she's a nut.

I can't understand why a person that got cheated on and beaten in past relationships over and over would treat someone that treats her like a queen like crap. I ask for nothing, just made sure she was happy, it seemed the more I did the worse she got. But if I did nothing either she was pissed. I mean I could point and say look it's a bird, she would say well not really, when I say I love you, she won't reply until she wants to, it could be a week later, no one tells her when to say it.

Why in the hell after a week of no contact by me she has called everyday but once and now left a sad voice mail about some stupid old pair of shoes I left there and she will meet me somewhere to give them to me, she said this crap last week. I don't want them or her. You see my point is she still will never admit she's wrong or sorry, NEVER.

Hi Eric,

I am so sorry that you are going through this. Unfortunately, she is very self centered, and even though you gave her the world, with a person like this, as you know, it is never enough. I know this is hurting you a lot, but unfortunately, she is the one that has to grow up, and realize how horrible she acted and is currently acting. She is the only one that can change.

I know, every single time whether I was wrong or right I went crawling back, this time I cant. Even know I know I'm so right in what I'm doing it seems wrong. I don't think she took me seriously this time, I was her puppet. Well my dear play time is over, I have my bad days but there getting better and talking to you guys on here makes it that much easier, thank all of you so much, it helps to spill your guts. Thank you

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i know, every single time wether i was wrong or right i went crawling back, this time i cant. even know i know im so right in what im doing it seems wrong. i dont think she took me seriously this time, i was her puppet. well my dear play time is over, i have my bad days but there getting better and talking to you guys on here makes it that much easier, thank all of you so much, it helps to spill your guts. thank you

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Anytime, Eric :) I thank God for this site and all of you on it. I am still going through a tough time, but honestly, if it wasn't for all of you, I REALLY would go out of my mind!

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i know, every single time wether i was wrong or right i went crawling back, this time i cant. even know i know im so right in what im doing it seems wrong. i dont think she took me seriously this time, i was her puppet. well my dear play time is over, i have my bad days but there getting better and talking to you guys on here makes it that much easier, thank all of you so much, it helps to spill your guts. thank you

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That's a common feeling among those who have dealt with relationships where they were controlled or even emotionally abused. You were always the one who said "I just want things to be okay" or "I don't want to fight anymore" or "Let's just get past this" just to feel better and get past things. In a way, she always won, and your emotional strength was slowly diminished.

I know how it feels and it is tough. It makes it especially hard when you are the one dumped as you feel as if you failed the relationship and there is something wrong with you.

Try to avoid her. Sounds like there's a lot of issues she needs to deal with that's within her. Stay away from the nut because that's what I think she is.