OK My wife and I have been together for 5 years, and since the very start anytime she is out with here friends *POOF* her sense of time, and me go out the window. That started my not being able to trust her. That eventually got better.
A couple of months ago I got home from work (I work until 11pm) and she wasn't home, she got home right after me, and when she got home she said she was at Kirk's(who I had never met) house getting her oil changed. I flipped out. She said during the fight she wasn't even going to tell me she went over there because she knew I would get mad. A little history, she has single guy friends who she hangs out with, and it has always bothered me and I had been crappy to her over it.
The next day, one of my friends tells me while golfing he saw her with a couple of guys out shopping. When I asked her what she had done that day she intentionally left that out. When I confronted her she apparently had been lying by omission about what she was doing 'because it was easier' than telling me the truth.
I knew something had been bothering her for a long time, and the next week I finally confronted her about it, and she said she thought we were so different she thought we might be happier with other people. Long story short, she had been internalizing emotions instead of talking to me about them because I had a bad tendency to over-react to things. We worked things out, I have been working on staying cool, and succeeding. I really had turned into an A-Hole looking back. It's slow going, but we are dedicated to each other, and are working on our relationship. This is the first time in our history we've had to go through anything remotely like this.
That was a couple of months ago, and things really are getting back to how they used to be. We're more open, and all that, but I just can't trust her. She lied to me... I don't even know how many times, and I can't help but wonder what else she lied about.
I know she would not cheat on me. I do not believe she would given her parents history, she would end it first. I find myself looking through her phone, e-mail, etc. and I feel guilty, but I can't help it. I'm afraid of her catching me and being super pissed, but I can't believe what she tells about what's going on. I know it takes time to rebuild that trust, and I feel like I'm breaking it myself by spying.
Any Suggestions Much Appreciated!