Have a friend that ask weird questions about my relationship. Every time I ask her why she ask. She says "Oh Im just asking or just making coversation" She will never give me a reason for why she ask. What do you think of this situation.

Hi Miricale,

It all depends. If you can, please provide more information: what kinds of questions does she ask, etc?

Depending on the types of questions she is asking. Maybe she is just trying to make conversation.

Whatever her motives which I would be suspicious of, tell her its none of her business.

See if she want to make conversation over her love life.

The questions she ask are about my husband and I's sex life. Also, the where abouts of my husband when he is not around when I hangout with her.

Questions of that nature would make me keep a very close eye on this one, and I might have to ask why is she asking. She had better have a good answer.

When I ask her why she says just asking or just wondering type answers. I can never get a concrete answer when I ask her why she asks.

Simple - don't answer anymore of her questions. Its YOUR business, and its personal. If I were you I would tell her to butt out and worry about her own things. I have to agree with talaniman, keep an eye on her. Not even my best friends ask me questions about my sex life with my boyfriend or where he is at the moment, why would it matter to them? Ask your friend to give a good reason why she wants to know so much. You've already spotted it, they are 'weird' questions.

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Originally Posted by Miricale 123

When I ask her why she says just asking or just wondering type answers. i can never get a concrete answer when I ask her why she asks.

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Well then say you would like a good enough reason for her to be asking those questions, and then you will decide whether to answer them or not. If she doesn't give a good enough reason, don't answer them. Why should you.

I hate to be suspicious of her automatically. If she does it a lot, she may be trying to get up the nerve to tell you something she thinks she "knows".

• She could suspect him of infidelity where you don't. She may think she has proof and doesn't know how to tell you. I think marriages can survive infidelity and do so to their betterment, but many people consider this a "drop dead" issue. She may not know your position on marriage and wants to tell you her suspicions but can't know how you'll take it. Tough position for her to be in if this is the case.
• She could have desires on your husband and doesn't know how to suppress them. She may even be considering telling YOU about it in hope of saving the friendship rather than undermining your marriage. Who knows? Tough position for her if this is the case.
• Is she married, too? Maybe she WANTS to talk you about sexual problems and possible suspicions of infidelity in HER marriage and she's dropping hints in hopes you'll open the topic with her so she can finally have someone to express her fears to. Tough position for her if this is the case.
• She could just be making conversation and isn't aware the suspicious reaction you're having to those weird-sounding questions. This one's easy. Talk about it or don't, no harm no foul either way.

Things for you to consider.

Tell your friend to butt out of your life. Maybe she likes you and wants to know what's going on so she can jump at you.

I would keep a close eye on this situation, she could be trying to find a problem in your life and then she will try to meddle into your life at a moment of weakness.

What do you mean by that?