I'm a 30 year old female and he is 38. I met him about ten years ago when I moved into his commune. There was an instant attraction and we started sleeping together. Its been going on for years now. We have both been seeing other people in between and it was never been labelled as serious. I always had feelings for him though. I moved back in about 4 months ago and we had to stay together for about two months while he was getting his place ready.. so it was just the two of us. We spend a lot of time together and have even had a couple of tiffs. I have fallen for him hook line and sinker. I did try and tell him that I feel more than I should.. but it wasn't very successful.. has he changed his mind recently.. I see him looking at me in a way he never has before.. and he touches me as often as he can.. even if it is only playfully.. I need to know what to do.. please help! :p

Talk about it, and be ready to do what it takes to be a couple, or break it off.

If there is no honest communications, after all those benefits, your wasting your time.

You need to sit him down and have a serious talk with him.