I have a 12 year old girl. Her attitude and personality since she started high school has changed so much. She has no respect for anyone else in the house, or family and friends. She will not do as she is asked, does not care if you take anything valuable away from her to try make her behave, will not talk to you always has so much attitude to us all. Tells me she hates me on a regular basis because I ask her to do something or won't let her do some thing, which is usually a result of her being verbal abusive. SHe wants to go to the primary school fayre this evening to see some old friends who did not follow her to high school, I am really reluctant to let her go as she has been so horrible with me. I try asking her and talking to her to see if there is a problem at school (which is usual as all her friends are so y and she is now tryign to compete with that) she does hot have trustworthy friends - but she will not take the time to listen, I usually get "what ? whay do you want?") After dropping her at the usual place this morning for school she shouted at me because she wanted dropping some where different today(literally 5o yds past the usual drop off point and she had not mentioned it) I would not go back and asked her politley to get out of the car, she would not get out until I asked for the 4/5th time then really slammed the door shouting she was going to her friends after school and not coming home. How can I control this ? She is getting impossible to manage. What I wanted to know was how do I handle the school fayre situation this evening ? Do I let her go or not, either way how do I handle it ? Thanks