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  • Jun 19, 2008, 08:55 PM
    brillobean
    Am I selfish
    Hello,

    I've been dating my friend off and on since December. We took a class together and on the very last day I asked her out, before I had hardly talked to her. We dated for two weeks, she dumped me for someone in another country. There was some time that I did not talk to her, maybe a month or two. Then we started to hang out. We were coffee buddies. Then one day about three weeks ago I told her that I assumed she still likes me and she said that it was blatantly obvious that I still like her. We walked and talked then before we left I kissed her. We have been on a few dates since then, getting dinner and going to museums. I haven't seen her in about a week and a half. We have talked though. Today we were supposed to go on a bike ride at a local state park. She had an issue with a friend that made her really upset and decided not to hang out today. I offered to comfort her. I had my heart on seeing her today and was really upset that I didn't. I miss her and I feel like I'm being selfish and that I have no right to be upset. Am I wrong to be upset?
  • Jun 19, 2008, 09:11 PM
    JoeCanada76
    Huh,

    What do you mean she dumped you for somebody in another country. Did you not say you were dating a friend, meaning going out as friends??
    I think you like her way a lot more then she does, but you do not get that yet? That is why you are here right?

    You have the right to feel whatever way you feel but if she has something come up you need to give her that space. Especially by the sounds of this friendship that you have.
  • Jun 19, 2008, 10:27 PM
    walker2323
    Well no not exactly but maybe she's making up the friend thing to avoid you maybe that's how you fell but if she likes you and really does she would want you to be around you'd be the first person she calls and she would want to hang with you cause to here you'd make her happy just being around if she liked you I think she's just messing with your head dragging you along maybe in my opinon id let here go and tell here its not working out and see if she comes back or calls to show she might care I mean she left you for some one else its time for here to chase you not you give in to her let her show she wants u
  • Jun 20, 2008, 06:30 AM
    JBeaucaire
    Friends don't impose on one another. Early daters... same rule. Calm and accepting, people are who they are and sometimes things happen we didn't plan, messing up plans we DID make. That's just life.

    You two are still just friends, friends with a little extra interest in each other. Don't make that simple truth into something needy/clingy/creepy. Friends don't impose unreasonably.

    Early daters... same rule.

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