I've been in a 8 1/2 year relationship. He was very unhappy with me because I was no always by his side all times. He told me to pack my stuff and move back to my home town. I did after hearing it 3 times. It's been over a month ago and he's not called me or wrote. Is he really done with me? Should I call or write him to let him know I still have loving feelings for him. In the bedroom we had a good thing going.

It would probably be a waste of time unless maybe you can convince him you have changed and will be there for him. But then again, what does he call not always by his side all times mean? Like was it a control thing with him or was he being reasonable with feeling that way?

Its sounds like he's done or I might be wrong, but if he told you to move out and you did and he have'nt call then its over once you moved out.

Like you stated your only get along in the bedroom, but a relationship is more then that. You stated you was not there for him, but was he there for you? Maybe for closure you could give him a call, he might answer or not, but do you really want him back?

Sorry did happen but I think a lot is missing from the story. Anyway, move on and reflect on what you want, sometime people grow apart.

He knows how you feel. 8 1/2 years was a long time.

Make good use of the time you have now. You might've actually been missing a lot of opportunities holed up with him. Now you're not, so check it out. Don't waste your days.

If someone treated me that way I would be gone and not wonder if it was over or not. No matter how good the sex was.