She wants supervised visitation away and simultaneously get more child support
Bluntly stated, she wants to have her cake and eat it, too.
My fiancé and his ex "fling" have a 6-year-old son together. The child is NOT in a licensed day-care facility, her friend watches him for mere pennies on the dollar. She and my fiancé have, basically, the same take-home pay. The child does NOT go without. She lives in a city where the cost of living is virtually NOTHING... we live in a coastal city due to our jobs.
She drags him to court every year for more and more money, but this time it's a little bit different. She wants sole custody, to place him under supervised visitation (she has no grounds for this... he is neither a drug addict or a felon --she has a DUI on her record), and she wants more money.
Because we live in a different city than the child, about 200 miles away, we aren't expecting the visitation to go unamended. She and her fiancé agree that the kid "doesn't need to be traveling back and forth to [our city] every other weekend." Honestly, my fiancé dreads spending time with his son because that means he has to deal with her. Also, due to her recent manipulation, the child no longer refer's to his father as "dad"... he's now calling him by his first name... and calling his mother's future husband "daddy," which greatly hurts my fiancé.
He would much rather relinquish his parental rights than deal with her and be hauled into court every year. He feels "stuck with his 6-year-old mistake."
We're pretty sure she'd let him relinquish his rights, but not without still having to pay child support. Why should he still pay HER is she allows him to relinquish his rights?
Is there any way out of it? Can he relinquish his rights (if she allows it) without an adoption taking place? If he can't... Is there anything we can argue or do to keep his child support the same amount as it is? Can we make her PROVE she needs it? We KNOW she doesn't. (She has a new car, braces, boob job, financed toys such as quads and toy haulers)
(We don't care about the visitation. He'd rather just consider the kid a bill and be done with her)
There are other tid-bits to the story... (ie. Based on a woman's gestation period, she could have conceived when he was only 17 and she was 23... and meanwhile, lied saying she couldn't get pregnant)
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What is sad... is that she makes his life miserable SO much and so often that he resents the kid for it (especially now that the kid refuses to call him 'dad')... and I see his point because dealing with her has made my opinion shift from 'objective' to 'i hate her too.' at first I thought 'it can't be that bad'... oh, but it is.
She's satan.
In their custody arrangement... they have to ask each other permission before taking him across county lines... she ignores this... but throws a FIT when we ask.
And yes, unfortuanately, his IS making more money now... and she found out through his mom, of all people.
My questions...
Does he still pay HER is she allows him to relinquish his rights?
Is there any way out of it?
Can he relinquish his rights (if she allows it) without an adoption taking place?
(we've heard all she has to do is say 'okay')
If he can't... Is there anything we can argue or do to keep his child support the same amount as it is? Can we make her PROVE she needs it? Example: demanding receipts, making her prove the kid is in a licensed day-care facility.