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  • Jun 16, 2008, 09:15 PM
    otis low
    Known my girlfriend for 13 years
    I've known my girlfriend for 13 years we used to be very good friends since we were children and we've always seemed to get together every summer when we were younger.but for like a 2 years I lost total contact of her then just recently I meet back with her and she had a baby but for some strange reason the baby attracted me to her more plus the babyfather is nowhere around. But we seem to really like each other and really seem happy with each other and we also love each other very much but I need to know if is true love
  • Jun 16, 2008, 09:33 PM
    kp2171
    No magic button here... time will tell.

    Look for compatibility issues... you can be in love all you want but if you aren't compatible concerning sex, money, goals, and sometimes faith it is an uphill battle.

    I've been with and loved two women I could not be with long term. Loved them dearly. It was true love. But it was a bad match.

    So step back and think about how you mesh in terms of two independent people choosing to be together. Not in terms of how much you like her.

    After that... well, there's still no guarantees.

    Life happens. Sometimes it goes your way, sometimes not.

    Why do you wonder if the love is true? Any issues? Concerns? Or just talking this through?
  • Jun 16, 2008, 09:47 PM
    angelic_voice
    Only ANSWER the question on this page here. Do NOT ASK a question. You are NOT logged in.
  • Jun 17, 2008, 12:25 AM
    JBeaucaire
    True love isn't a feeling or a state of mind. True love is an accomplishment.

    Feeling love for someone simply means your willing to take a chance on trying to love them unconditionally. True Love just means you "truly" managed to do that.

    So, if you two are in agreement, dive right in. It will take you the rest of your life to answer the true love question, but you can make it happen, you can make it real, it's all about your unconditional commitment to one another.

    Go for it.
  • Jun 17, 2008, 11:53 AM
    Chery
    If this is the same girl you are talking about in the thread below, then YOU have to ask yourself some more questions. Oh, and you don't have to be logged in to do so - just be open and honest with yourself - whether on the internet or not. Then have an open and honest conversation with her.

    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ut-227131.html

    Good luck.

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    We can't always change pages or threads in the book of ''reality''. Sometimes we have to face life and accept it as it is or confront it to change it.
  • Jun 17, 2008, 12:00 PM
    N0help4u
    Often the best thing is to trust your gut instinct.
    My last two bf's (one from 2002-2004 and the other 2 months last year) I had a gut feeling they had started cheating on me. I dumped them and later found out I was right.
    The guy I just started seeing this past month I trust he is not a cheater even though he is always running around with his friends. I have that peace in me that I can trust him.
    BUT you also have to be careful that your own emotions and insecurity are not leading you to believe she is cheating.
  • Jun 20, 2008, 12:16 PM
    talaniman
    Quote:

    we also love each other very much but I need to know if is true love
    NO, ITS NOT!!
  • Jun 20, 2008, 12:22 PM
    stillinluvwitmy
    Yes I believe that it is true love. Because u know her 4 13 yrs and it says a lot. When u used to be with someone it mean that loved that person love does not grow old time grow old. The love connection u had will always be in your heart no matter what the situation is.
  • Jun 20, 2008, 12:34 PM
    Romefalls19
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by stillinluvwitmy
    yes i believe that it is true love. because u know her 4 13 yrs and it says a lot. when u used to be with someone it mean that loved that person love does not grow old time grow old. the love connection u had will always be in your heart no matter what the situation is.


    Read his other posts, this is not true love. This is one person being way to clingy to someone else. He has posted that he does not trust her when she goes out with her friends(no trust=no relationship) then posts about how he had to ask her if she was in love with him, anytime you have to ask someone if they love you, it's a red flag that you are more committed to the relationship than the other person. He is way to clingy and dependent on this women. Never allow yourself to be a priority in someone's life when you are just an option in theirs.
  • Jun 20, 2008, 12:54 PM
    JBeaucaire
    (deva vu)

    True love is an accomplishment. It's not something you're feeling about someone else. It's something you've done and done well over great length of time and have peace and success as a result.

    (/deja vu)
  • Jun 20, 2008, 04:04 PM
    Chery
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Romefalls19
    Never allow yourself to be a priority in someone's life when you are just an option in theirs.

    Got to spread it Rome.. but you've said it in a nutshell! Maybe someday he will find someone 'real' and not be just an option.

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