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  • Jun 16, 2008, 02:36 PM
    ayna
    Is he on the rebound?
    I just found out that my ex boyfriend (who broke up with me about two weeks ago) is in a new relationship with another girl. I don't feel upset or jealous about this at all, but I do feel slightly betrayed by him for some reason, and I can't explain it.
    He told me that he still wanted to be friends with me, that I was his best friend and that he still cared about me, but I don't see how that can be when he has entered a new relationship less than 2 weeks after splitting up with me. I need some advice on whether this is a sort of rebound for him? If in fact a person that does the dumping can go on the rebound after ending a relationship. I really don't want to over analyse the situation, but I just need some help on understanding this.
    Although he was the one that broke up with me, I don't hate him or anything for what he's done and what he's doing now, I just don't get him, he seems pretty messed up because he still has my things that I left at his house, in his car, last time I checked he still had pictures of me on his myspace, he hasn't asked for his things back from me, and some stuff I have is kind of important to him. Yet he is starting a new relationship. So I just want to know what people think about this, and if anyone has any advice? Cheers x
  • Jun 16, 2008, 02:37 PM
    f104
    The friends line seems to be an easy way out if you ask me. I am feeling slightly jilted as I too was given the "we can be great friends" tactic.
  • Jun 16, 2008, 03:28 PM
    Distantlove
    If I'm honest, it sounds to me like he's ended it with you to be with that girl..
  • Jun 16, 2008, 03:29 PM
    JBeaucaire
    He's definitely on the rebound. Now what?

    Rebound relationships are just as likely to last as non-rebound. You two weren't a rebound and you two didn't last? So, what's the point of this question? You just need some sort of assurance he's going to end up miserable and breaking up with her?

    OK. Statistically, 95% of all dating endeavors end for one reason or another. I can't promise he'll end up miserable, but I can statistically assure you they will break up for some reason.

    Oh, and the same thing is statistically true for YOUR next relationship, too.

    I don't see what you're gaining from this knowledge, but there you go.
  • Jun 16, 2008, 03:34 PM
    talaniman
    As its often the case for exes to be interested in someone they think is better, so they break up and move on. Its really that simple, and that is why acceptance is your own key to moving on yourself, and overcoming the emotional bond you have developed. He just had a head start, and was motivated more, so it SEEMS easy for the dumper to carry on, while your still adjusting. It also adds to your frustration level. It makes you feel like crap, and is confusing to you, That's why staying away from exes, and their business, helps you move along, and start recognizing your own oppurtunities at being happy.

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