I was dating a really nice guy who acted like a perfect gentleman, the relationship escalated quite quickly after about three weeks and he booked a lovely weekend away for us. Shortly after a ex found out and contact him saying that it was the worse thing that she had done and wanted him back. (usual I don't want anyone else to have him senario) he was really honest that he still had feelings for her but knew that she was no good for him but had a lot of history. After about another three weeks the phone calls started fading and eventually he said that he needed to sort his self out. Ok fine but after a couple of months I saw him at a mutual place and he sat and talked and basically flirted with me all night but when a friend suggested to him that he take me out again he said that he couldn't as things were too complicated! I know that he has seen the ex but not actually back with her. What is going on with this man is he just confused or was he just seeing if he still could come back if he wanted to?

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Originally Posted by sandyl

when a friend suggested to him that he take me out again he said that he couldn't as things were too complicated!

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Is he still interested? No

If he was that interested in you, he would leave his ex behind and be with you. You are better off getting away, you don't need the emotional run around, it will just mess with your head.

Go find someone who isn't "confused".

He's probably still interested but not sure what he wants if you really think you could hold a relationship with the guy talk to him for a week or two and if things don't start going the way you want them to just ask him flat out what's wrong. That's just what I would do

as a man myself... us men are complicated as much as girls.. not to be wrong but we have the right to be complicated sometime right ? Lol... jk jk... back on the topic

seem like he just confused as the situation goes... I have been there before... it just that one feeling that you get somehow don't no why... you just want to try to get back with an ex and to see if it was the wrong choice or not you no.. you gotto no that what your mind tell you

he didn't want to hurt you I think or he just couldn't make up his mind..
the best thing to do and you should had did was and still can do now is ASK HIM STRAIGHT OUT??

THINK ABOUT IT ^^

His interest is not enough to build a relationship on, so be polite and friendly, but expect nothing from him, and have your own life that you enjoy, and are happy with.

First off he was honest about things and the hints are preatty clear.. Best thing is to maby ask him straight out even tough most guys will never admit there feelings they would most likely try to avoid you (speaking from experience).. Just don't make too much of it.

May I suggest buying the book he's just not that in to you it might help.I am currently reading it trying to sort out my problems.

Best of luck