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I have a boyfriend but sometimes I do think of women in a sexual way & I get turned on. I have kissed 2 women in my life but that's all I ever did. I do get a real kick out of lez porn its so hot & sexy to me. But when I think about doing that w/a woman in real life I can not picture it. I love my boyfriend & he turns me on so much. When I masturbate I think of women & I get the best O- do you think I am bi or its just a fantasy?
Only you can answer that. Seriously.
Some people are turned on by things in fantasy that they would NEVER do in real situations--that doesn't mean that they want to own a harem, or want to ACTUALLY be a dominatrix, or WANT to be raped (rape fantasy is one of the biggest fantasies for women, believe it or not).
If you can't imagine actually DOING it, then I doubt that you are bi--it's just a fantasy for you. BUT--you could also be bi, and just not be perfectly mentally comfortable with that idea, not enough to actually ACT on it.
Only YOU will know the difference.
What syn said.
Many people have some sort of fantasy that arouses them, but that theyd likely never do in real life. And then there are some that a person might do given the "right" circumstances. And then there are those you'd do in a heartbeat.
At this point, you sound like you are aroused for sure, but until you take that leap, its all fun talk and sexy thoughts.
Don't worry about the label. I've a friend whod be called straight if labelled by her actions of the last 8 years and her likely future interests, yet shed be called bi from her experiences before that.
Any woman who has been turned on by reading erotica, who has envisioned the woman in that story, who gets aroused thinking about her body and what she is experiencing has felt what you have experienced with your fantasies.
I agree with what syn said as well. Fantasies are just that, Fantasies. Vastly different from what you would ever do in real life.
Fantasy is not reality. Human beings are very sexual animals... some people can be turned on by just life itself. :)
I would think that you would have to make love with a woman several times to learn if you are really bi. However, if the *only way* you can orgasm is by fantasizing about females or female body parts, then, I'm not so sure.
Best wishes,
Well do you have sexual thoughts about the opposite sex and if so what kind?
She says as much in the OP. she enjoys watching women in porn and fantasizes about women when self stimulating but doesn't feel like itd happen in real life.Quote:
Originally Posted by kristi08
Well I have been with women and that's usually how experimenting startsQuote:
Originally Posted by kp2171
Well I fantalize a certain position w/women but its only one & kissing women does not phase me... I do appreciate women's body because I wish I had a better body... I am happy w/my body but women on porn just look amazing to me...
It is fun to be with a women don't get me wrong but its like I told men they know what a girl wantsQuote:
Originally Posted by magrock
If you don't mind me asking.. so are you lesbian or bi? What do you think about my tendencies... I personally think I am just curious but I know I could not picture myself "going" down on a girl but maybe just some teasing... lol... it's a fantasy that turns me on...
It doesn't seem to me that you are bi. My opinion is that all women appreciate beautiful females.
Well, for perspective in a different area... I have a great voyeur fetish. I don't seek out voyeur porn. I don't peep in the windows of neighbors. But my wife will shower from time to time with the bathroom door open and the shower curtain a bit aside. Now... I could, and have, gone into the bathroom to join her... but there's something about that peek from a room away that is just awesome. Likewise, she's changed clothes in front of the window that looks upon our private backyard, knowing I was out there and knowing I was going to see her. Again... I could be IN the room with her... but there's something about that naughty factor that is great. I love the act of her peeling off clothes, layer by layer.
Same with sex outdoors.
Its just about finding what hits you just right.
Think about when you were a child (nothing to do with sex, just the mind)... how powerful your imagination was... how lost you could get in another world that wasn't tangible...
Why not extend that ability to other areas as an adult. True... you still need to be able to feel the moment, to experience the reality you have in front of you and not completely rely on external stimulation or mental fantasies to drive you over the top... but honestly... if my wife is thinking about a man or woman she saw at the gym this morning as I get her off... as long as she is still with me, engaged in our connection, faithful... I honestly don't care. She didn't stop being attracted to other men just because she married me and I'm not the end all be all of her sexual imagination. I'm fine with that. If ALL she ever thinks about is someone else, sure id be upset.
As long as its not distracting energy from your bedroom, as long as it isn't affecting healthy sexual tension, and as long as you are able to connect to your partner mentally and physically... what's the harm?
I have enjoyed a bit of voyeurims, too. The naughty bit of stimulation.. whee! :)
Well I am very honest w/my boyfriend he knows my tendencies & I have told him I fantasize about it.. he does certain things to me that are gentle which remind of what a women could do... my boyfriend is a hot man & your right about knowing that I choose him & if he gets me worked up because he TURNS me on a lot & if I finish off thinking of a women or my fantasy position then I do not see anything wrong w/that...
Thank you everyone I was starting to feel guilty that maybe I was bi... but I have a wild imagination & lez porn drives me crazy so I thought something was wrong w/that... LOL :o
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