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  • Jun 15, 2008, 06:58 PM
    sammysue852
    Im bisexual but how do I tell people I am?
    Ok well im 15 and i just recently started telling a few people but then after i told then they look at me like im stupid and they stop being my friends and that really upsets me. Also one of my friends is also bisexual and i told her and then she blew up in my face and said i was copying her because she told people before i started telling people. so someone please help me and tell me how to tell people with out them flipping out.:(
  • Jun 15, 2008, 07:03 PM
    excon
    Hello sammysue:

    What you do in bed and with whom is nobody's business whether you're gay or straight. You don't need to tell 'em anything. The ONE you will need to tell will figure it out when you look into her eyes and tell her how beautiful she is.

    excon
  • Jun 15, 2008, 07:28 PM
    sbriggs
    Tell
    Who you want to tell... you will then find out who your true friends are.. all the other can------- well you know what they can do! LOL
  • Jun 15, 2008, 07:34 PM
    Fr_Chuck
    Wearing a large buttom saying, Hi I'm Bi comes to mind

    Like excon said, I don't think I ever go around and saying hey, I am straight and none of my gay friends ( OK, maybe one) does not go around saying, hello I am gay. They are what they are, if they get into a dating issue, they may ask or tell the person they are asking out,

    But you don't go around just telling everyone, what you do in your sexual life, is just not everyone's busienss

    And of course at 15 you are not suppose to be having a "sex" life anyway
  • Jun 15, 2008, 11:18 PM
    barbiechick123
    I agree with all of the above, you don't have to tell anyone what you are. I mean obviously if someone asks you positively say your bisexual, but you don't have to go advertising it.

    And for the f****ckers who stopped being your friends because of your sexual orientation obviously means their not mature enough to be with someone who's differnet, even in the most minor way. And you can tell your bi friend who thinks your copynng her to f* off because she's not the only person in the world to admit their sexuality.



    Anyway...
  • Aug 17, 2008, 01:50 AM
    Psychosocial
    I really think you should tell someone you trust and know will not judge you for it, but if you're friends are going to judge you and stop being friends with you over something as small as you're sexual preferences then I don't think they are real friends. When I was coming out, I told one friend I KNEW wouldn't judge me and she told me how she tought our other friends would react, so I tried to tell them about it, and explain about it and stuff like that. And if you're friend thinks you're copying her, she needs to get over herself, because she's not the only person in the world that is bi sexual. But again, if you're friends will judge you for something like this, then they aren't real friends
  • Aug 17, 2008, 11:44 AM
    ScarletSea
    Like everyone says its your business. Those who have stopped being your friends might not be able to come to terms with it and are maybe a bit narrow minded. I had friends like that... Im not bi but I pull my friend when we are out and they didn't like it and decided to give us abuse... Very silly but you get people like that I'm afraid. If people do ask or assume something then just come out and be honest with them. Be proud not ashamed and if people can't deal with it then it's their problem not yours. After we do not live in the middle ages.

    Xx
  • Aug 18, 2008, 12:18 AM
    hiyaparis
    Honestly I think you need to choose whom you tell wisley.

    Like your supposed friend.

    He/she was a total brat acting like that and they shuld know well that there are other people in ths world that happen to be bi. She isn't alone.
  • May 23, 2009, 06:38 PM
    kevinjones
    I came out to my parents around holloween last year. Since then I have told my friends and now almost every one in my grade knows. Some people make fun of me for it but in my school there are tons of people who are gay and bi so it isn't that weird. But my advice is tell the people who need to know and should know. Like your best friends, and if they are real friend they will understand and respect that. I know it sound corny but it is the truth. My best friends made fun of me for about a month tell they accepted it. So tell people who need to know and hang out with friends who accept u.
  • Aug 7, 2009, 12:00 AM
    k1kxo19
    okay take a deep breath, if you tell your friends your bisexual and they stop talking to you, they aren't real friends. True friends are the ones who stay NO MATTER WHAT. And second when you said your friend got upset and said you were copying her, it sounded like she said she was bisexual to get some attention. Otherwise- Why would she care? So my advise is... don't go off randomly telling people your bisexual, but when the time is right, tell them and if they leave, they never were your true friend.

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