Ask Me Help Desk - Teens Sexuality[meaning Sexual Orientation]

Im thirteen,well the 23 of this month.I personal have known for a couple of Months my sexual orientation.
Last summer I figured Out I like Girls and Boys.I've dated 2 girls during the year.And it seemed better than dating a guy.Lol.

But I told my mom and My dad,that Im so called "Confused",which is basically a lie.
You may say Im young or whatever,But if you knew me in RL I'm mature,I get mistaken for 15.But sorry for drafting of the topic.

But I told my mom and well she is,don't get in trouble and be careful.My dad is like supportive and still loves me the same way.Even though they both are Pentocastol.

But my mom told me one night its "abominable" to love the same sex.Yes it maybe,but I don't care.Im the only that isn't saved in my House,well except my brother who is pagan/wiccan and his fiancée is wiccan.And Im african American.

But my point is.
God this and yada that.
I want my mom to still love me.

And as of now Im in love with my friend Bridgette and its funny because she is straight and Im the only girll she has fallen for,but besides that.

What do I do?
I need to tell my brother now and his fiancée.
But Im scared he will this own me
And I can tell my big BRO ANYTHING. :( Help me please?

13 you can still be figuring things out, and actually being a little confused at this age is more common. But the issue, straight, gay, bi, at 13, you should be thinking and figureing it, but at 13 you should not be doing anything to practice what you are feeling. Then in a few years first your feeling will be more in tune,

Thanks for answering,but Its not practice.
I actually know what I am.
I've done a lot of thinking about it.
:]
I may be young,but I know what Im doing.
And these feelings I have... are real.

Life is choices. To follow one path you have to forsake some others. That sometimes means forsaking the "good-will" of certain people, too.

I can assure you, your mother and father will always love you. But their choices in life may not allow them to feel free to embrace you in a lesbian lifestyle. Not everyone has the skills to judge the "sin" while still embracing and comforting the person. It just ends up this way.

The world isn't universally accepting. If you choose to pursue your lesbian feelings and life in the open, a huge part of the world won't think twice about it. But many people WILL react to you in ways that you won't like. It's their right to be honest about it, but few people are skilled at doing this in a loving way.

So, your relationship with your parents and your brother just may suffer in the short term over this. You need to be OK with that and do what you can to make it easy on them. In time, their love for you may override their distaste and rekindle things to the way you want them to be. Just let them have the space they need.

They may feel they have to "speech" at you, just let them and forgive them, be strong for them during the time when they can't.

This is a skill you will need. Not just for dealing with anti-gay people, but over and over in normal parts of your life. You will always need to deal with people being arbitrarily unreasonable. Take it from a guy who has dated women exclusively... women are REMARKABLY unreasonable. If you're going to date them, you better develop a thick skin. Hehe.

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Has there been any update since last month? How are things going?

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Originally Posted by Linny-kinz

Im thirteen,well the 23 of this month.I personal have known for a couple of Months my sexual orientation.
Last summer I figured Out I like Girls and Boys.I've dated 2 girls during the course of the year.And it seemed better than dating a guy.Lol.

But I told my mom and My dad,that Im so called "Confused",which is basicly a lie.
You may say Im young or whatever,But if you knew me in RL im mature,I get mistaken for 15.But sorry for drafting of the topic.

But I told my mom and well she is,dont get in trouble and be careful.My dad is like supportive and still loves me the same way.Even though they both are Pentocastol.

But my mom told me one night its "abominable" to love the same sex.Yes it maybe,but I dont care.Im the only that isnt saved in my House,well except my brother who is pagan/wiccan and his fiancee is wiccan.And Im african American.

but my point is.
God this and yada that.
I want my mom to still love me.

And as of now Im in love with my friend Bridgette and its funny because she is straight and Im the only girll she has fallen for,but besides that.

What do I do?
I need to tell my brother now and his fiancee.
But Im scared he will dis own me
and I can tell my big BRO ANYTHING. :( Help me please?

No matter what your mom says, deep down inside she will always love you no matter what your sexuality is. You are still young so your feelings might change. Just act like your true self!

Soccerchick28

Hi. Well am new at this, and ii mean being honest is the best thing to do. And you know I hve been through the same thing but my parents don't accept it.. so am living a lie.. but if you have told them about your feeling am glad you did and ii hope everythng is working awesome.

I can realte to your story Linny-kinz I also am 13 and like girls and boys but I don't really have experience with either of them. I think you should just be yourself and your family will come around. Thank you for your story it is very helpful to me. :) I hope things go well with your family:)