I first saw here in a class we had together. I can remember everything about her. What she wore, how her hair was, I even wrote down her name the second I could hear someone say it. We started dating later that year. I was 17 and she was my first girlfriend. I treated her like royalty, opening doors for her, pulling out chairs, standing up when she left the table. We dated for 9 months but she was my best friend. She said she wanted to take a "break" and that night had a guy from her work over at her house. She has gone threw 3-4 boyfriends in about 10 months of us being broken up. Yet I have had 0 since her. She is all I think about. She is one of the only people I care about. And after everything I know I shouldn't love her anymore but a big part of me left when she left. And I feel I would do anything to get that back. Out of every girl I know and am friends with, she is the only one that makes my heart stop when she talks. The only one that made me feel worth something. And now I don't have that. I guess what I'm getting at is I'm at a loss. I don't know what to do. Still continue to be friends with her like we are now. Give her the opening to come back. Stop talking to her. Please. If someone could give me help, or even tell me what you did in a situation like this I would be most grateful.

We fall in love, or what we think is love, and sometimes our partner changes their mind. Accept it, and move on. I know, with no experience to draw on, its hard to know how to cope with your feelings of loss, but that's exactly the life lesson you need to learn.

Click on the links in my signature, and get some great insights, and suggestions to help you move on, and let me know if they help.

Your in the right place at the moment. Glad you are here. I know it's horrible for you at the moment but you can't make her change her mind toward you.

Perhaps you should start seeing other women, not romanticly but as friends. Meet other women for coffee of just to hang out. That will may show you that there are many wonderful women out there. Putting so much time and effort into one person who does not want to be with you may only increase your sense of loss and sorrow.

First love. Isn't it grand? Now that it's over it's also your first love loss. Note I said "first". You will go through this several more times, if you're lucky.

What I mean is that you have a lot to learn about women, yourself, being in love, dealing with loss, standing tall through it and moving on. These are skills you don't have. These are skills you will learn.

These skills are only learned by experience. Ouch! Well, it's going to happen, one way or another, so I say dive in and hang on. Get back out there, your next big thing is already coming, but you'll miss it obsesseing over your lost first love.

Don't miss it. It's going to hurt, but it's going to be awesome. Every time. You'll see.