How do I save my relationship from falling apart?
I am being told that I am selfish by my girlfriend. I have a full time job and she is going to school full time. We are away from each other quite a bit on a regular basis because of our current situation. When I am home she is gone, when she is home I am gone. We moved in together about a year ago and we have been together almost 2 years now. It seems like all we do is eat and sleep in the same place. We are always too exhausted to have any energy to do things together besides grocery and necessity shopping. We split the rent and groceries (she uses student loan money, money from her parents, and other miscellaneous funds from volunteer work to pay for stuff because she doesn't have a job). Lately we have been fighting a lot over all kinds of random things. She tells me that I am selfish and that all I do is think about myself and what is best for me. I just recently started training on the side for a new (in the future I will be gone for about 3/4 months to complete all of the training). She is almost finished with school and hopefully will be getting a job soon. She seems resentful over little things. She says that "she doesn't know where she fits in in my life anymore" and that "she can't influence me at all". She tells me that she is unhappy with her life and her appearance and doesn't feel happy with me. She is high strung and she never sleeps and is always stressed out. So I go to bed without her on most nights. She tells me that I never look at things through her eyes and in her perspective. The first year of our relationship was solid and I think that over time it has fallen apart. I think that because of our different schedules that we just don't depend on one another for anything anymore because we can't rely on each other to be there. It's like we just take care of ourselves now. She is very defensive and standoffish. I love her very much and want to work through this rough spot. Suggestions anyone? Advice on how to deal with something like this...