My boyfriend stays hard for a really long time... I mean I can get him off it just takes forever! What are some ways to get him off faster during hand jobs/blow jobs?

How about asking him?

I think you should abandon the fellatio scene with this guy. YOu are going to get a warped view of what constitutes good sex for you.

Not true Choux, if she enjoys oral sex, then I say go for it, if he enjoys it as well, and
Let's be honest, what man doesn't. ;)

Try talking to him about this, the best sex begins with communication.

Good luck. :)

I can't answer for him, but ask him what he needs.

Or keep enjoyimg yourself.

Like women what sets a person off quick won't be the same from person to person. Just ask him. Depending on technique I can take a really long time as well, or can get off in 10 minutes. Wife has learned all my ques so she can gear her excitement and get the game over quicker when she gets tired.

That comes with years of practice however and not something learned overnight.

Practice makes perfect. Talk, explore and learn, also, tell him what you enjoy.
Sometimes talking about all the things each of you enjoy is great fore-play. ;)

Sometimes positions can make a difference. If you are kneeling beside him on the bed, instead of kneeling between his legs, he can touch your chest, back, and bottom with his hands. If you are sitting on a chair while he stands there is more movement of "the guys" and motion there means more stimulation. Yes... we guys double over in pain when bumped wrong there, but during sexual stimulation the same "pain" can be interpreted as pleasure.

Also, using a free hand or fingernails to play with "the boys" can crank up extra stimulation, but don't start with this... hold back and save it to push him higher when he hits a plateau. Pulls, tugs, and fingernail drags all give strong stimulation.

Otherwise, as mentioned, talk to him openly about what he likes. Some like a wet gliding motion of the glans. Some like more of the push/pull of the skin. I think many don't grip as strong as you can, or grab as low on the shaft as you can... by gripping low you can pull the skin of higher, tightening the skin at the scrotum.

On another note, does he masturbate a lot? Not saying he does or doesn't, but if he is a "problem solver" he might not be as pent up with sexual tension.

Also... is this something you do after intercourse or instead of it? If he is holding back during intercourse and you are trying to "finish" him off outside you, that can tie into a longer time.

Also, again, some people are more primed at certain times of the day. My partner is easier to get to orgasm in the mornings, much harder at night. Is the place you are having sex comfortable and secure... meaning someone isn't going to pop in at any moment? Mentally feeling like you can relax can help you be more in the moment.

In the end, the more you talk to him openly, the better your sex life will be. People who cannot talk about sex shouldn't be having sex... so you don't have to tell him "you take too long"... but you can ask him if one thing feels better than another.

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Originally Posted by mhmlmmz

My boyfriend stays hard for a really long time... i mean i can get him off it just takes forever!! what are some ways to get him off faster during hand jobs/blow jobs?

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Don't know how old you are, but enjoy it while it last... let him do the work