Should I leave or stay in my relationship with boyfriend after knowing he is not sure of me?
:confused: I am 33 and my boyfriend is 40. We've been dating for a year & 2 months now. Our relationship is not that stable we always have our fights every now and then, because of my super sensitive, most of the time insecurities. So I tend to over react on small things... in other words I'm really a roller coaster with my emotions. But I have no doubts that I want to spend my life with my boyfriend because he is so good to me and gentle with words and actions. Just very recently I broke the ice between us since we never talked about marriage or anything that leads to such matter. I told him that I want to settle down soon with him. And he said he is not settling down sooner unless if he is sure that he is comfortable with me since according to him we don't have a strong foundation. And that we always argue and fight every now and then... he said it will take a while for him to think of settling down because he really wants to be 100% sure if the girl he would marry is really for him. I know that he has grounds for telling that we are not that stable together but to me even though we have a lot of differences I take him as a whole and our shortcomings and accept that and willing to deal with it. My question is should I wait and see if time will come he would say to me oh I'm sure now of you lets get married... is that a smart move on my part?? Or leave the relationship? I'm so not getting if he is into me just like the way I am to him. Please help, I've been a failure in my past relationships, I don't know if I'm really the one screwed up here...