My wife & I was on crack about 2 months ago we are both in recovery not using. I'm super pissed at her because she was prostituting herself for dope. Its driving me crazy the images I see in my head about her. I ask myself how many was it? Where are they? What do thy look like? Did she enjoy it? Are those people laughing at me? I know she feels bad about it and has apologized but I want an apology again. I have not had sex with her in 2 weeks because I can't bring myself to touch her. I am actively looking for an affair myself so I can be rid of her I feel as I hate her guts its making us both very uncomfortable. What am I to do?

My wife and I was on dope together we are now in recovery 60 days clean and attending 12 step programs rigoursly she now tells me she went out and prostituted herself for dope and I am having challenges dealing with that any suggestions? I can't help but feel repulsed by her how can I forgive her and enjoy sobriety w/o this hanging over my head?

FIrst of all, remember that it was the addiction that led to the prostitution, and it really says nothing about her love for you, or lack of it. You need to decide if you can forvie the addiction or not... but since you were also addicted, I would HOPE you wouldn't continue to hold it against her. Having an affair is a VERY bad idea... if you don't want to be with her any longer, then leave her. But put an end to the marriage, get closure on that relationship, and THEN find someone new.

You were both on drugs and that crap makes you do anything to get it. Were you using the dope she was prostituting for?
Your pissed cause she prostituted for drugs, you're considering an affair to be rid of her, you're no better than she is. You are both toxic. If you hate her so much, don't drag her down any further than she is, leave her alone and get some help. You are both addicts. You are the pot calling the kettle black.

Consider your commitment to each other. Then ask yourselves which do you love the most-your spouse or the dope? I suggest foregivness, commitment and lose the dope.

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Originally Posted by rsain2004

Consider your commitment to each other. Then ask yourselves which do you love the most-your spouse or the dope? I suggest foregivness, committment and lose the dope.

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I think you misunderstand. They HAVE lost the dope. But at some point when they hadn't, she prostituted herself to get dope, and now he's having problems dealing with that.

I think you need to work with her on this, frankly. Isn't there something you'd done while on dope that you're not proud of? Addictions are strong, and cause people to do stupid things--you know this, and I'm sure that's part of why you're now sober (congratulations on that, by the way. I know it's hard to stay sober--a day at a time, and you've made 60 of those in a row!). So... blame it on the addiction. Be angry at the dope. Forgive your wife because if you can't, you will not be able to move forward with your lives together.

Are you repulsed by her, or what she did? If it's what she did, that's over now. If it's her, why are you debating with yourself? It seems that you are hurt because you think she wants dope more than she wants you. If that's the case, why did she come back to you? The truth is, everyone who has a job prostitutes themselves for a paycheck. We tolerate all manner of emotional, physical and mental abuse for money. Ask yourself if she will relapse again. If you think she will, help her avoid it by getting her counseling from someone who is successfully recovering... they probably will do it for free.

Drugs will make you do many things, this is just one of them, it was the drug in control, you should understand this more than anyone.

You get over it be knowing that a new drug free life is in the future

All due respect, but I find it funny that one dope fiend is mad about how another supported there habits.

Especially since she probably supported your habits also. Get over it, and get yourself some more sobriety.