Hi I have a 9 yr old daughter ,and I don't know how to cope with her, I've tried every thing,star charts .groundin her.one on one spending time .every thing,I also have 2 other children,who are picking up on her behavior,I'm also doing a parent course, HELP

What is your daughter doing exactly? What kind of behavioural problems is she exibiting? A little more info may be helpful, to know the problem you are dealing with! Why are you doing star charts? Parenting isn't a magical thing, or anything that is written in the stars! I don't know your situation, but taking away all privileges could be a really good start, if she isn't obeying the rules in your home. Again, more info!

Watch Nanny 911 or Super Nanny! Lol

I've learned a lot from those two shows.

First what is she doing, setting fire to the couch or refusing to wash her hands?

1. taking away toys, computer usage, music usage, grounding, standing in corner and finally spanking are all useful punishments, depending on how serous the issue

Monetary fines worked with our son at the advice of a counselor. But that was years ago so I don't know if it works today.

What exactly is she doing?