My husband ex-wife is custodial parent but she always wanted to give up her right every time she has problem (financial or her boyfriend). Sometimes when she upset with them she just drove them to our place and just drop them off and dump their stuff on the drive way and said that she is done with them.

We have taken them to live with us a couple of time with nothing legally done. It never work out the kids always end up back to their mom either the kids cannot stand the rules that we have (with their mom they can do anyhitng they want) or she realize how much money of child support that she is going to loose then she will try to interupted our daily activities by calling and demanding to see the kids when ever she wants and then take them back.

Recently she told my husband that she is going to loose her house and she wants my husband to take the kids.(again) We would like to know what is our options to end this problem. We feel like she just being self-center only think about herself and her own benefit never even try to communicate with us as adult.

If you and your husband want the kids to live with you full time have an attorney file for custody giving her visiting privileges at set days and times. This way the kids can at least have a more secure atmosphere and more structure in their lives.

If she can't take the responsibility of raising her own kids then she shouldn't have the say so in whether she see's her kids or not! Believe me those kid are going to begin to see the picture too! You do what you think is right for the kids as well as your husband.

If you and your husband feel as though your family could give the children a better life than their mother, then I say... get a lawyer and get full custody of the children. Obviously, from what you've said here, the mother seems too concerned about her own life than her children's. It sounds like they need structure and stability in their lives and hopefully you and your husband can provide that for them.

Get an attorney to write up a document turning legal and physcial custody over to the husband, and file it in court

I agree with you