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  • Jun 7, 2008, 09:47 AM
    confusedgirl101
    How do I get over my ex boyfriend?
    Okay, so I dated blank (not his real name) for a long time. I liked him soooooooooooooooo much. We never really talked though, unless we were on the phone, or IM. And then a lot of drama started over blank (every girl likes him) and I couldn't take it anymore, so I ended things. For a few weeks everything was fine. Then he started going out with new people, and I realized that I still liked him. I have never felt this way before. We are friends again, and he sat next to me and watched a movie on a field trip, and all I wanted to do was to put my head on his shoulder, and fall asleep. I think I accaully love him, but I have a new boyfriend, who I really don't feel the same way about him, as I do blank. He also has a girlfriend, whoes name isn't needed. He seems to really like her, and it drives me insane. I'm sooooo depressed, and I don't no what to do. Can someone give me some advice?:( :( :( :( ::confused:
  • Jun 7, 2008, 09:54 AM
    mcpoeman
    You just have to ignore him, look a maillion dollars evey time he sees you, and maybe he may think he's been a bit of an idiot,if not, by then you'll have lots of attention from males and you may be strting to think why was iso bothered in the first plcae good luck happy hunting
  • Jun 7, 2008, 11:32 AM
    JBeaucaire
    One day it will occur to you that EVERY person you ever like/love, you will most likely ALWAYS like/love them. Even when you hate things they've done or done to hurt you, you often find your feelings the same.

    That's why you will one day have successfully learned how to properly place "feelings" in your decision-making process. Right now, based on feelings, you're tempted to throw caution to the wind, ignore all the good in life and just go after those feelings as if they were THE MOST IMPORTANT thing in the world.

    One day you'll realize they aren't the most important thing. They are a beginning, a source of occasional inspiration, but your intelligent, mature character only allows you to move forward in ways that are honorable and sane.

    So, know you will always like him. Every person you ever like you will like differently. Comparing them is not only painful, it's unfair.

    You have a boyfriend, he has a girlfriend. Feelings for others outside of your current relationships are supposed to be ignored. That's maturity.

    Don't worry, you'll get there someday. I hope you don't hurt too many people (inlcuding yourself) too many times along the way.
  • Jun 13, 2008, 11:45 AM
    brkfstatiffs
    I say try to move on. There are plenty of fish in the sea. That will be bad karma on your part if you try to break up what he has going with his new girl. Think if the situation was reveresed? How would u feel if you were dating a new guy and he tried to get in the middle of it? Why it might be flattering it would only cause problems and your guys would probably dump you and you would end up in the end with neither. Don't be that second girl in line, you should find the right guy who will make you his first for who you are.
  • Jun 14, 2008, 10:24 AM
    taytortot
    OK I had this same problem I had gone out with my ex and he chaneated on me 10 times and I feel like an idiot going back for him every time but yesterday I saw that he chaeted again!! I said to myslef tis is over but I couldn't move on!! But you can't talk to him @ all!! U can't talk to him you have to ignore him no subject on him at all just don't pay any attention to him it worked for my friends

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