I'm really scared I have this boyfriend that I love with all my heart and I know that he loves me to I know he does. But I'm just really scared that he is not going to have the time for me that I crave I don't know I might just be being selfish but I just love being around him cause around him I am happy and I can be myself but the thing is that now he has a full time job witch means that he is not avalible to be with me on my summer days and then he has his band so that when he is not working he has to go and practice and then he has shows on most weekends and then he has tour this summer around 4th of July witch means he might not be here for that and I'm just really scared that I'm not going to be able to stay as strong as he needs me to be and that somehow or another I'm going to loose him and I never want to be without him someone please help me how can I stay strong for him and for us?

Maybe, being strong isn't what you are meant to do. Talk to him. Maybe see if you can plan a dinner date or a night at home with him. Tell him that you aren't trying to be selfish, but you just need to spend some time with him. If he's a good guy, he'll understand and figure something out.

It sounds like HE is smart enough to have some interests and activities that keep him busy with things other than you. You are doing the same thing, right?

What are your hobbies? What are your goals? What are the things you're working toward over the next few years? Don't these things fill up time, too?

Your previous sexual connection to him was probably a mistake, now you feel that you two have some sort of connection that may not really be there AT ALL. Sorry, but that is the truth.

A boyfriend is actually a very small part of what you need to be doing with your life right now. If it's the ONLY thing going on, you're in trouble and so is he... and he doesn't even know how much trouble. A woman with nothing to focus on but a guy can make him pretty miserable with that much attention.

Don't let it happen. Develop some interests of your own. At this point ANYTHING will do. Just get out there.