Hi, this is my first post here. I'd like to keep it as brief as I can, but I really could use some advice, so I'm sorry for the length.
I was with my ex for about 3 years. Since the beginning she always felt insecure and was constantly accusing me of finding her unattractive and wanting to be with other women. I have never cheated on her or purposefully deceived her, but yet the suspicions kept on unabated.
When she moved in, a situation occurred where apparently she was digging through my journal and found a paragraph buried somewhere in the middle of a 100 page journal which said "she's not that hot and she knows it." The journal entry was written by me while in a particularly bad mood. She left the apt and didn't come back for a week until I begged her to come back because I loved her and she took things out of context. When I also mentioned that she shouldn't have been rifling through my journal, she said that she was cleaning and happened to "stumble" upon this one paragraph. Yeah right!
Anyway, I also caught her repeatedly checking on my ex's myspace profile 2 or 3 times a month, even though I haven't spoken to my ex in almost 4 years (and almost a year before I met this particular girl). She found her profile because she knew her first name and the area where she lived, so she tracked her down by doing a search. She had been pestering me with questions about my ex for years- she keeps accusing me of finding my ex to be more attractive than her- even though I've had no contact for 4 years! Ridiculous!
So all of these suspicions had taken their toll and lead to constant fighting. She told me she didn't see a future with me but didn't want to leave the relationship. I told her if you don't see a future, we can't be together. There was one final argument where I tried to convince her to see a future for us, she said some things, I said some things, we yelled and she packed some of her stuff and left early in the morning while I was still asleep.
She is now staying with a friend a few hours away. After we broke up, she kept texting and calling, asking questions about different irrelevant stuff like what our netflix password, etc, stuff that didn't make sense. I asked her if she wanted to get back together again, she said no, she couldn't trust that I found her to be the most beautiful girl in the world. I said we must go NC then until we either get over each other or you have a drastic change of heart with a concrete plan of how to make the relationship work this time around. She said fine and we didn't speak for a while.
In the meanwhile, I joined an online dating service and started corresponding with other girls, in order to move on with my life. So today she calls me out of the blue. I don't pick up. She keeps calling then texts "PLEASE call me, it's very important." I call and she says she's had a "major change of heart", how she was wrong, I was a great boyfriend, etc, etc and she wanted to come back. I asked her what would make this time different than the rest. She could not answer the question, but kept asking me "Did you love me?" "Did you ever cheat on me?", "Were you true to me?", etc, etc. I said yes I was true, and no, I never cheated.
Then she cursed me out and said that she "knows what I've been up to" and that I've been looking to date other girls and I'm the lowliest of the low. Then she hung up. After consulting with some friends, I came to realize that she had somehow figured out my different passwords (they were different than the netflix password), which was why she was asking all those questions earlier.
Sorry that this is so long, but right now I see her as a dangerous stalker, someone who digs through my journals, stalks my exes, and goes through my email. She still has most of her stuff in my apt. I feel that it is none of her business what I was doing while broken up with her and it was not a lie to say I was true to her since I was while we were dating. I'm wondering how I should handle this moving forward to get her stuff out of my apt and her out of my life for good with the least complications.
Any advice?
