OK so I've been dating this guy for about 7 months now (im 17) I love him, he loves me... I've been able to have multiple orgasms by myself while masturbating but when I'm with my boyfriend he can't do anything to get me to orgasm. This is my first serious boyfriend, and the first boyfriend to pleasure me, etc. (we've done everything but sex). To say the least I've got very good at faking it. I feel soooooo bad when I fake it but he's the sensitive type and I've dug myself in way to deep to just stop faking it or to tell him he's not doing it for me. When we fool around it turns me on and I get really horny when we fool around or do whatever... is it just my age? Or is there some other reason that anyone can think of? Maybe if I stop fooling around with him for a while and stop masturbating will that rev me up or something? I donno...

Well personally at 17 with a boy friend one should consider even if they should be having sex. But unless you tell your partner exactly what you feel, how you like things he will never know

I've moved your question from Adult Sexuality to relationships because, at 17, you are not an adult and should not be posting there.

As far as the sex--if you keep faking it, you won't ever have an orgasm. Period.

Come clean with him about having faked it, tell him WHY you faked it, and if he walks away--well, good riddance. Any guy that stays mad about something like that is thinking of himself more than he's thinking of you, anyway. And continuing to lie isn't going to make it better--it's just going to make it harder for you to have an orgasm in the long run, because you'll have never figured out what works.

I agree with Synnen, you need to come clean to your boyfriend because after faking it so long it will become natural and won't ever orgasm

One of my earliest sexual relationships actually didn't include intercourse. This lovely, wonderful girl took the time to teach me how to bring her to orgasm. We sat together and explored her parts playfully until I actually understood what was what down there and how things I did made her feel.

She taught me how manually stimulate her to orgasm. And we never had intercourse.

I've been grateful my whole life to that girl. Next time you're in bed together, try it. "Can I show you some stuff that I like?" Then show him. Then let him try.

A relationship built on sex and lies is as fake as your orgasms.

Stop having sex, and talk this out, or let the poor guy go from your game playing.

Its so obvious neither of you knows what your playing with.

I'm getting really mad that just because you're seventeen you shouldn't be able to be condsidered an adult sexually. I don't know where you are from, but I know here in Texas the legal age of consent is 17, also, you are a year away from being considered an "adult", I think you are perfectly capable of asking questions about your sexuality. After all, this is a huge time for exploration. I mean at 17 you can go die for your country... so why not ask about your sexual issues with your boyfriend? The best advice I can give to you, is be honest with him. And to everyone saying "oh youre only 17 dont talk about that"... please think about what you are saying. You may not know a lot of 17 year olds... but I know plenty that have more maturity thoughtfullness and self growth than many of the adults that I know.

Hannah, the REASON she is not allowed to post in Adult Sexuality is because of the site rules.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/adult-...ality-u-b.html

It's CLEARLY posted that you need to be an adult (over 18) to post in Adult Sexuality.

Usually I would have sent this to you in a private message, rather than go off topic in someone else's post, but you have any private way to contact you turned off, so I have no problem explaining to you publicly that we are following rules when we try to make sure that only adults are posting in adult forums.

Im going to give some advice from the viewpoint of someone closer to your age. I respect people's right to decide when it is appropriate for a person to become sexually active. I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year now, and we were friends before that and I myself am sexually active with him (my age being 18).
As for the lack of orgasm, it is most likely because you are both young, inexperienced and probably a little bashful and nervous since it is your first time together. I can say this because I have been there. :)
As for overcoming this, I to at first faked how good I was feeling for the benefit of my boyfriend. But we got to the point where we were so comfortable with each other (which you should be with someone you are intimate with), that I could just openly talk to him about it and he took it on as a sort of challenge and learning opportunity!
Try reaching orgasm manually with yourself, this will give you a better understanding of what he can do to make you finish. Then have fun with it, take your time, and make sure he knows not to make you feel pressured to orgasm (at first my boyfriend would ask me over and over "are you getting close", it did not help). And eventually with patience, practice and communication I am sure you will get there.
Just for future tips, if you do start to take things to the next level physically make sure you're prepared. Birth control, and other means of protection. Talk to your doctor.
From my little knowledge of life and this subject that I have acquired over my 18 years, I know that communication is key.
But anyway, I hope this is helpful and that it satisfied you... and results in your satisfaction ;). Enjoy!