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  • Mar 6, 2006, 02:28 PM
    Boswee
    Why does she care?
    Im 20 years old, but anyway I was wondering why do girls care about what size there clothes are? I mean I could understand for some but I've been going out with this girl for awhile and I would like to buy her clothes as a gift. But she won't tell me her jean size or anything, I got to look at her shirt size but then she hit me. So why does she care if I know, that's what I want to know. If you could tell me what size 4 5 6 3 2 1 0 is that would be helpful. Like is size 4 like size 27 or something like that?
  • Mar 6, 2006, 03:00 PM
    kp42484
    Hi,

    First off, let me honestly tell you that buying clothes for someone as a gift tends to not be a good idea.

    About clothing sizes, all women are different, but for the most part think of it as being as off-limits as asking a woman's age. Unless you're interested in her, it usually comes off as rude. Since you two are dating, the age question is obviously not taboo, but it helps you understand her offense at it. Women like to be perceived as younger, prettier, and more well-mannered than they really are (doesn't everyone?). They're just more sensitive than guys. For you, your clothing size is no big deal. But for women, the smaller the dress size, the thinner (and therefore more attractive, in her view) she is. This is not true for all women, but is apparently true for yours! Or, maybe she likes her privacy!

    In my opinion, she's either being too sensitive or really wishes to keep her sizes a mystery to you so that you don't judge her too harshly (some men have the idea that the smaller the woman, the more sexy she is--not true! ).

    The best help I can give you is to assure her that no matter what size she wears, you love her anyway. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Maybe if you let her know that she's pretty just how she is, she'll open up about the dress sizes.

    Hope this helps!
  • Mar 6, 2006, 06:35 PM
    bizygurl
    If anything I would get her a gift certificate to her favorite clothing store.. then she can pick out what she likes. We girls are funny about things like that. Not every girl is like that though, she may just feel a bit self conscious about her body even if she's a size 2 she may have a hang up about having you know. Just talk to her and say that you love her no matter what and that she doesn't have to be ashamed or embarresed about her body.
  • Mar 7, 2006, 06:53 AM
    fredg
    Hi,
    You are 20 yrs old? Learning what to buy women as gifts, presents, etc, can be a frightful experience. Most of us learn what NOT to buy by experiencing the old "letdown" looks from the person we give them to!
    Don't buy clothes! Girls and women are very particular about their sizes, and not wanting anyone knowing what size they wear; unless of course, it's the smallest size made.
    Buy her something else, such as flowers, perfume, or something she has as a hobbie, such as electronic stuff music players, etc.
    I do wish you the best of luck.
  • Mar 12, 2006, 12:41 PM
    s_cianci
    Talk to another girl who knows the girl you're going out with. She could probably give you a good indication of what size to buy.

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