I'm 63 and Just found out I'm adopted
I'm not sure this is the proper place to be asking this question but couldn't find any other category that fit.
I'm 63 and just learned I was adopted. My dad adopted me when I was six months old. My mother promised she wouldn't tell me. He died and mom told me the truth. I loved my dad but I need to talk with my biological father
It was during WWII, mom was dating a sailor (let's call him Jim). They knew each other for about four months when my mother slept with him. Right after that he left for a short tour of duty. Four days after being with Jim my mother was raped. Obviously she didn't know who the father was for sure. When Jim got back my mother told him she was pregnant. He offered to marry her. She was to embarrassed to tell him she was raped so she said she had slept with someone else right after she was with him. She never saw Jim again.
Since August of 2007 we have been trying to contact Jim. My mother wrote a letter and I followed up with three more. I know he has received them because they needed to be signed for. There has been no response. I recently hired a private investgator so see if he could collect DNA from his trash, there was nothing specific that could be used. We decided the investigator should go to Jim's house with picture of my mother and Jim while they were dating. I tried three times, twice he wasn't home and the third time he didn't answer door. Cars were their so he knew he was home.
I'm at a loss as to the my next step. I don't want anything from Jim except to find out if he is my father and if he is, a few hours to sit down and talk with him.
Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. I know I should just be thankful that I had such a great adopted dad. But I really need to find my true identity. PLEASE HELP