Recently I've been going to A lot of parties, and at every party there always seems to be a girl that wants to "hook-up." My friends cheer me on, but I don't think its right at all. But the oher night I "hooked-up" with a girl that I KNOW I wouldn't of if I wasn't under the influence and I am REALLY, really regreting. One, because I didn't use a condom. And two, because she's "dirty." I don't know what to do. Any advice? :confused:

Well first lets hope you don't end up dying from some disease.

You are risking passing on things you may have gotten from past sex, and getting things from all the guys she has been with.

So first get yourself tested for most STD's and get yourself checked again in about six months. And don't have any unprotected sex again until you are ready to settle down.

Stop going to parties like this, and get new friends.

Stop drinking. Stop going to parties with girls you don't want to "hook up" with. Pray she's not pregnant. Stop using alcohol as an excuse. Get more mature friends.

GET TESTED FOR STDS!

And stop judging girls that you're "hooking up" with, since you're doing the same sort of thing they are.

Get checked for STD's.
Always have a condom with you.
Don't allow yourself to be "under the influence."
Have a plan for your life and follow it.

All the above.

You choose what you do with your body and your life. You have a backbone and a moral compass, use them. If you are engaged in things you don't like, stop it.

It is that simple, though you can complicate it all you want.

What we have, now... she is dirty and you are dirty! Time to talk to your physician about this.

Let me just make a plea to you that a person can have the most enjoyable life, and a happy life by having great activities including great sex, safe sex, in his/her life and leaving drinking and drugging and diseased folks, who are lost folks, way behind. Also, the alcohol is very problematic. Alcoholic drinks do not go along with great sex or great anything; it is about altering your mind and lowering your inhibitions and impairing your judgement and dulling reality.

I'm not being holier than thou... my father and two brothers were alcoholics, and I saw how they suffered; how those close to them suffered, too.


Best wishes going forward! :)

Lilrunt,

First of all how old are you?
I didn't understand by you saying she is dirty, if she is dirty so are you and you should blame yourself for the action, you were under the influence and didn't use a condom and you should learn a lesson from this, Choux has stated very well you should follow the advices.

My age doesn't matter. I'm just looking for some help. Also, by "dirty" I meant, she's had sex with many guys before me, and by chance, forgot to slip me that piece of information before we had sex. Now I'm kind of worried. And thanks to everyone. Another thing, I don't judge girls, they are the ones who earn those names, and I am definitely not doing the same as they are, thanks.

Yes you age does mean a lot we don't know if you are at legal age to be on this site, if you think had sex with many guys, then what about you, you never had sexwith any one before, the girls are not judging guyes but some time guys will earn those name too.

yeah, I agree... first take the alcohol out of the equation. Second, get tested. Third work hard NOW so you can play later...

... by play later I meant responsible leisure...