Ask Me Help Desk - Parents and dating

OK, I really like this one guy and he really lieks me and we have been hanging out with a bunch of people. He doesn't act the same around other people so I want to hang out with him one on one. I have never had a boyfriend before, or have ever been on a date. So him and I want to hangout this weekend and go rollerblading and ice cream or whatever! And I really want to go. I am 17 years old and he is the same age, him and I are like best friends for the last 3 years. Anyway, I always ask my parents permission for everything, I am a real goodie goodie! Lol and when I told them I wanted to go out with him they said it was obv that I really liked him but they don't want me to go out with him. I was confused because my parents said I want allowed ot date until I was 16 and now I am 17. They now this guy a bit and think he is really nice, but my parents don't want me to be tied down going into my final year of high school and they don't want me to mess up our friendship. His sister is also one of my friends, so she is scared if I break up with him then I will lose both of them! I really like him and want ot give it a shot, but how do I convince my parents to let me go out with him! How do I bring it up in a discusion! Please help me!

Go out with him to "events", don't let yourself get bogged down with titles like b/f-g/f, just hang out together at events, hehe. If mom and dad bring it up, you're just doing stuff with friends and occasionally him alone. Keep the b/f word out of it.

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He doesn't act the same around other people so I want to hang out with him one on one.

This troubles me. How is he different?

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. I have never had a boyfriend before, or have ever been on a date. So him and I want to hangout this weekend and go rollerblading and ice cream or whatever! And I really want to go.

So go rollerblading and out for ice cream and forget about the whatever. That's what your parents want, too. They want you to have a good time but to keep your goals and priorities intact.

And of course, no parent wants their daughter to get into something that endangers or hurts her, and in a parent's mind, that "something" is guys.

So go for it, but don't put too much stock in a "relationship" at this stage of your life. It truly has just begun. ;) Friendship is the best basis for a relationship, and it will either fly as a 'couple' or it won't.

Don't wrap yourself around the concept of "dating" or "boyfriend." He's still him (I hope but am not sure, based on the first statement I quoted), and you're still you, and that's how all healthy relationships begin.