Recently I got dumped by my girl friend... in the worst fashion... I was not even given a reason for it... it was all of a sudden and unexpected... we were friends since 7 yrs and entered into a relationship about a yr back.. all my mind is filled with her thoughts and the dreams which I had for us... all of it down the drain now... I can't get along and accept the fact that she's dumped me... I m still hoping she'll realise her mistake and comes back to me... but she doesn't look like she's going to come back because she's moved on with her life.. m not able to take it.. am still suffering in this hell...


I want to start my life afresh... will life give me another chance? Please help me move on and not think of her... any suggestions are welcome to help me...

I today realise that she may not have had true feelings on me she just was attracted to the opposite sex in me I feel... coz she's got almost nil emotions towards me and recently in a social gathering when she was aked about the last few yrs she took out another guy's name and said she was indebt her life for him and all that crap.. while the truth was I was the person who was with her all the time when she was going through a bad time... at one time she had no one buy me.. she's forgotten all that... but now I feel all that I loved is a imaginary person who I imagined her to be which ultimately turned out to be false... but I had over the time built dreams for her and day dreamt about her all these days..

Im so sorry you're hurting so much but you got to accept that she is gone.. Until you do so, you won't be able to get better... It hurts a lot, but there is nothing you can do now.. just move forward & don't look back!

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Originally Posted by qetuo

i want to start my life afresh.... will life give me another chance ?? please help me move on and not think of her...any suggestions are welcome to help me ....

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Of course life will give you another chance... I mean you have to give yourself another chance... Dont get stuck on this relationshipp that didn't work out... look after yourself & time will make everythin better.. As for not thinking about her.. im afraid there's nothing we /u can do... you will think about her for a long time/maybe not that long ( who knows) but we're here for you.. when you get into sad moods.. you can always come here and talk.. there's always someone here!
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Life will have plenty for you, but as long as you're sitting and reminiscing the life you'd planned and lost with her, you're going nowhere.

Your best shot isn't to immediately go looking for a replacement either. Your best shot is to work on your WHOLE life, the total package. Career, hobbies, travel, volunteering, community activities... dive into all of that.

You want your next relationship to be a part of a full and rich life, you don't want it to be THE PART. Don't let her be the central part until such time that you've walked down the aisle with the girl. Then you can shuffle her into the center, no problem.

I am so sorry for what you are going through, life can be tough at times but it can also heal. Be good to yourself and try to look forward and not back. Good time will come again soon.

Bluerose is right, take time to find yourself again. Time and no contact will heal these wounds

It's a very tough time on me... I love her so much... I'm not able to concentrate on my life because I keep thinking what she could be doing and who she would be with... I have my exams the coming week and I'm least prepared for it.. don't know what to do... my head is full of her thoughts...

Hi qetuo.. It is very hard indeed, but necessary... Stop worrying about what she's doing and start thinking about what you are doing!. Its time to focus on YOU and only YOU.. Leave her in the past... You need to accept that she's gone!. Start looking forward.. Get some friends and study together.. It may help you concentrate...

Hmmm... do you know the worst part... I have made a few mistakes myself and they are eating me up like anything... they are not at all leaving me in peace even if I want to move one... the guilt feeling makes me feel like if at all I had not committed them... it hurts so much...

The same thing you may do to other people.. you got to do to yourself----->You got to FORGIVE & FORGET.. Forgive yourself and move on... Remember we're humans, we all make mistakes..

Hmmm... thanks...