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  • Jun 1, 2008, 09:07 PM
    screaamx
    I don't know how
    I don't know how to break up with my boyfriend. I know everyone is telling me,
    Just tell him the truth. Tell him how you feel, and he will understand and things will work.
    I tried that, he BEGGED me not to breakup with him. And I couldn't, I couldn't leve him being sad like that. I constantly tell him my phones broke, so I don't have to talk to him. He's really boring. I told him, I think we should just be friends, so I could get to know you better, then maybe go out again in the future. Then, he started talking to my one friend and he sent me the conversation about him wanting to cut himself. I will admit, I am a huge flirt. And I can't settle down. I hate having a boyfriend, but he doesn't get it. Please help me ):
  • Jun 1, 2008, 10:52 PM
    JBeaucaire
    You can't accept any responsibility for how he's going to react. You can't be manipulated by threats like "I'll cut myself". You bow down to that, you might as well give up on any life of your own, ever.

    You don't need his permission to break up. If you can't do it in person because he's too manipulative for you, cop out and do it remotely. I hate that, he'll hate it, but he's leaving you no choice.

    If he won't accept the break up, that's his issue, too. Let him know you appreciate it is hard, but it is done. He can stay, but you've moved on.

    You can't protect him from this AND have any freedom at all. Time to grow up and make the hard choices. Hard choices mean doing hard things and giving some things up. You have to give up your need to protect him.

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