Hi my name is Cindy. I'm 18.
I've been dating my boyfriendfor 6months now and everything has been going well. At first I thought that his parents would come around after awhile, and the way things are going we're not going to split up anytime soon. My point is that my parent love my boyfriend and like him around and see that he's a great guy. But my boyfriend's parents just don't seem to like me. The've never invited me over for dinner lunch family events nothing. My parents are always inviting my boyfriend over everything. I've been to their home several times and never really engaged in any converisons with them. In my attempts to they make it hard to keep a converison going. Almost like they're not interested in anything that I have to say.
I'm managing editor of our schools newspaper, president of the academy of finace, been volunteering for three year at a Saturday school, teaching for two years at a Sunday school, five year tutoring at my local elementary school etc... Recently, I invited his parents to come an join us for a movie I four free movie passes given to me from school for high achievement and hard work.My boyfriend thought it was a great idea,and asked his mom if they would like to come she said yes. But when the day came he tells me that that they said that they didn't want to go out and just wanted to go home and eat dinner. It's understandable because they're working adults etc... but I was really disappointed that they couldn't apply effort into be involved in our relationship not for me, but for my boyfriend. I don't want to jump into conclusion and say that they don't like me but it sure is hard to prove otherwise.
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My mom does not like my wife, in 12 years we visited 3 times, life happens and you go on. Also they may not like having people over, as a teen, no one was ever asked over to my home, it just was not allowed.

You can only make your best effort.

After that, it is on their court. IF there is a specific reason they are uncomfortable, try to sit down and address it directly... sometimes people go years without having a 2-minute conversation that could change everything - either out of pride or fear.

A lot of people come around in time as they see your union mature and grow. And if they do not, it's probably their issue, not yours.

You know, they might not have liked you before they met you. It may have nothing to do with you as a person at all. I'm just speculating here. Did he have a relationship before? Perhaps they are upset that you replaced someone else that they liked. Are you a first girlfriend? Maybe they resent you because they refuse to see that their son is growing up.

My girlfriend was worried if my parents didn't like her or not.

I told her not to think about it too much. If you do, you'll just end up being uncomfortable around them as opposed to being yourself.

Just give what you can, that's all you can do.

-Sik

This can be a real loser of an issue. My wife's whole family loves me, my family never gave my wife a chance.

Now, 23 years later she and I are strong as ever, and everyone in MY family has been through multiple breakups, divorces, generally all around mess.

So, it just goes to show you once again you can't account for people's feelings. They don't pan out in the world in any real way. Only people's commitments do that.

To be fair, my wife's family (who love me to death) are about 60% divorced rate now, too. So... that really just proves my point all the more. Someone else's opinion of me has no bearing on my suitability as a mate.

I just do my best. My wife does hers. So far, our best is beating 80% of the rest of our loved ones. (strut)

Bad as it feels, just accept and respect them at all times, and be a very nice person to them. Even if they don't appreciate or like you, your b/f will love you for it.